第一篇:效率極低人群的七個習慣
效率極低人群之七大習慣(牛津大學通過對1050名在校大學生最新調查研究結果,后附英文原版,超值分享)來源: 談俊?TJ的日志
與通常所列舉的應該培養的有益習慣不同,本文在此舉出的是我們最好避免的7種習慣。
就像尋找對你有益的習慣一樣,尋找妨礙你的習慣同樣重要。這7種習慣中大多數都可能會輕易成為你日常生活的一部分,使你難以察覺它的存在(或者它如何影響到你)。我曾經略微嘗試了這些習慣,結果毫無疑問,那些重要的事情沒有幾個可以完成。同時我也要添加說明的是,這只是在生活中你可能形成的影響效率的主要的7個習慣,我很確定
絕不僅僅是這些。
1、缺席。
也許你曾經聽過伍迪·艾倫所說的這句話:
“百分之八十的成功來自于出席。”
更多的出席——這是在生活中你可以保證更多成功所做的最大也是最簡單的事情之一,無論是在你的社交生活中,你的事業上還是你的健康方面。如果你想要改善你的健康狀況,一個最重要也是最有效的事情就是在每次你該出席時出現在健身房里。
也許天氣會不好,也許你會不想出門,也許你有一大堆其他必須要做的事情。但是,如果即使你在積極性不高時仍然繼續出現在健身房里,那將比你呆在家里的沙發上放松要有效的多。
我想這個也可以推及到生活的其他領域。如果你每天都堅持寫作或繪畫,你就會快速的得到提高。如果你更多的出門你就可以遇到更多的新朋友。如果你參加更多的約會,你遇到心上人的機會就會大大提高。僅僅只是更多出席就會使你的生活大大不同。而缺席卻會使你毫無收獲。
2、拖拖拉拉。
為了簡化,我將最喜歡的3種擺脫拖拉情況的方法列舉如下:
-吞食青蛙。也就是說在一天的最開始就完成那些最艱難最重要的工作。早上良好的開始會讓你一天都保持高昂的情緒和積極的動力。這通常會使你這一天都十分高效。
-你如何吃掉一頭大象呢?不要打算一口吃成胖子,這會使你感到過多負擔以至于產生拖延的念頭。把一項工作分為若干可付諸于行動的小步驟,然后僅僅關注第一步直到把它完成,接下來再繼續下一步。
-說服自己。我發現這種向導型調整十分有效。就在我花了20分鐘躺在床上反復默念在這幾天里我都十分高效之后,我就不再會陷入拖拉的情況或者瀏覽1至5個我喜愛的網站尋找更新信息的必要。
3、做一些無關緊要的事情。
除了拖拖拉拉以外,你最容易陷入的不良習慣之一就是忙于一些無關緊要的事情之中。
為了提高效率你也許需要某種時間管理方法。它可能會是一件極為簡單的事情,比如在一天的開始使用80/20法則。80/20法則,也就是我們通常所熟悉的帕累托法則認為,80%的收獲源自20%的努力。所以為求高效你應該將你精力的大部分集中在那些極少數重要的事情上。
當使用這個法則時你只需按優先順序寫下這一天你需要做的3件最重要的事情,然后從頭做起。即使你只能完成其中的一件事,你仍然完成了今天最重要的事情。也許你也會偏愛其他諸如GTD等方法。但是無論你如何組織工作,最關鍵的還是尋找那些最重要的工作,這樣你就不必花費幾天,幾個星期甚至幾個月的時間去忙于那些并不是很重要的事情。如果這些事情無關緊要,那么即使你快速的完成它們也是沒有多大用處的。
4、多慮。
因為多慮而很少采取行動。陷于無窮的分析之中只會使你虛度光陰。行動之前加以思考是沒有錯的。做一些調查研究,制定一個計劃,探究可能存在的積極以及不利因素。
但是強制性的反復思考就會成為另外一種浪費時間的做法了。在嘗試之前你沒有必要去從每一個角度檢查每一件事情。而且你也不可以等到一個最完美的時間再去做事,因為這樣的時間從來不會出現。如果你繼續這樣思考就只會使自己陷的越來越深,從而使采取行動變得越來越難。相反,雖然思考在一定程度上對你有所幫助,但你現在需要做的就只是停止思考,然后去做那些你應該做的事情。
5、凡事過于消極。
當你凡事都從消極方面考慮時,你的積極性就會被大大打擊。你會發現到處都是問題和錯誤,而這些問題是本不存在的。你抓住細節不放。如果你想要尋找一個不做某事的理由,這當然沒有問題。而當你從一個消極角度看問題時,每次你都可能找出十個借口。
因此你幾乎一事無成。你向任何愿意傾聽的人訴苦(也許很多人并不想聽),抱怨你的工作,生活和領導有多么的差勁。你的生活取決于你如何看待這個世界,這已經成為一個能夠自我實現的預測。
對此的一個解決方法就是了解消極方面的限度,認識到你的消極思考并不是這個世界的真實寫照。然后不妨嘗試一些其他的角度。舉例來說,你可以嘗試著培養一下凡事從更為積極和樂觀的角度思考的習慣,這會對你大有幫助。通過這種方式,你也許就會開始嘗試這種積極性的挑戰。這并不容易,然而如果你接受了這種挑戰,連續7天都只從積極方面思考,你就會突然意識到你看問題的角度和想法是如此深刻地影響著你對世界的理解和你所得到的成果。
6、固執己見,與世隔絕。
人們很難去承認自己的想法不是最佳選擇,因此你越來越執著于自己的想法,變得閉目塞聽。這會讓你很難取得進步,比如說效率就會很難提高。在這種情況下,即使認真思考改變人生的可能性都會變得很難。
顯然,解決方法之一就是打開心胸。開闊視野,從他人和自己的錯誤中汲取教訓,從書籍等資源中獲取知識。與任何事一樣,這事說起來容易做起來難。正如前面所說,對此我的建議就是認識到你的知識領域畢竟是有限的,而你做事的方式也會存在不足。那么不妨就嘗試一下新事物吧。
而我的另一條建議就是,閱讀一下埃克哈特·托利的《新天地》,特別是有關Ego的章節。正如托利所建議的,如果你不再像Ego那樣思考,你就會更加容易接受新思想,拋棄那些已經無用的舊思想。另外我想要補充說明的就是:不要迷信書本,也不要盲目追求新的信息,否則你就會成為一個沉迷于自我幫助的人。在行動中運用那些新信息和你學到的事情,然后加以嘗試。
7、持續信息過剩。
信息過剩并不是說你過多的閱讀,我所指的是所有輸入信息的過剩。如果你讓所有的信息都涌進大腦,這當然會導致難于清晰思考,因為刺激源太多了。以下就是這種習慣可能會存在的弊端:
-你所接受的一些信息也許會是消極的。媒體和周圍環境會因種種原因提供一種消極的信息。如果你沒有根據需要對信息加以選擇,也許你就會陷入消極之中,從而影響到你的所思,所感,所為。
-這會使你急于追趕當今發生的事情,然而每時每刻都有十幾件事同時發生,想要追趕上它們幾乎是不可能的事情。你的生活會因此充滿壓力。
-如果你持續被信息轟炸,并且還試圖將所有信息分類,那么你將很難做出決定并采取行動。就我個人而言,如果我得到過多的信息,就會造成某種形式上的癱瘓,一事無成。或者你會被這種習慣所困,終日急于忙碌在一些非重要的事情上。
為了可以集中精力,清晰思考并付諸行動,你就需要在吸取信息時更有選擇性。當你工作時盡可能的避免那些分散注意力的事物。關掉電話,斷開網絡,關上大門。你就會不可思議的發現,當你沒有每隔五分鐘就被打擾一次,沒有機會因瀏覽RSS-feeds或喜愛的網站而拖延時,居然可以完成這么多的事情。
現在并不是說我建議你們停止閱讀所有的博客或報紙。但是一定要清楚哪些是你真正想要閱讀的,哪些只是用來打發時間的。同時你也可以查看其他開闊性信息的領域。
比如說,你沒有必要陷入所有來自周圍環境的消極情緒。如果周圍的所有人都在拖延或者焦急的忙于各種非重要的事情時,你會很容易被這種情緒所影響。如果你有一扇心靈之門,關上它而去關注更為重要的事情,這會是個不錯的主意。Habits of Highly Ineffective People
By Henrik Edberg
With a twist to the common list of habits that are useful to establish, here are 7 habits that you do best to avoid.Just like finding habits that can be useful for you it’s important to find habits that are holding you back.Most of these 7 habits can easily become such a normal, everyday part of life that you hardly notice it(or how it’s affecting you).I’ve dabbled with all of them quite a bit.Not surprisingly I didn’t get much of the important stuff done.I′d also like to add that these are just 7 broad habits you can establish to become highly ineffective in most parts of your life.I pretty sure there are several more.1.Not showing up.Maybe you’ve heard this quote by Woody Allen: “Eighty percent of success is showing up”
One of the biggest and simplest thing you can do to ensure more success in your life – whether it be in your social life, your career or with your health – is simply to show up more.If you want to improve your health then one of the most important and effective things you can do is just to show up at the gym every time you should be there.The weather might be bad, you might not feel like going and you find yourself having all these other things you just must do.If you still go, if you show up at the gym when motivation is low you will improve a whole lot faster than if you just stayed at home relaxing on the sofa.I think this applies to most areas of life.If you write or paint more, each day perhaps, you will improve quickly.If you get out more you can meet more new friends.If you go on more dates you chances of meeting someone special increases.Just showing up more can really make a big difference.Not showing up will not get you anywhere.2.Procrastinating half the day.To keep it short, my 3 favourite ways to get out of a procrastinating state are:
-Swallow that frog.What′s this means is simply to do the hardest and most important task of the day first thing in the morning.A good start in the morning lifts your spirits and creates a positive momentum for the rest of the day.That often creates a pretty productive day.-How do you eat an elephant? Don′t try to take it all in one big bite.It becomes overwhelming which leads to procrastination.Split a task into small actionable steps.Then just focus on the first step and nothing else.Just do that one until it’s done.Then move on to the next step.-The Get around to It Paraliminal.I find this guided mediation to be very useful.After 20 minutes of mostly just lying on my bed and listening I’m far more productive for a few days.I don′t feel the urge to sink into that procrastinating state or the need to find out what’s new over at one or five of my favourite websites.3.When actually doing something, doing something that isn’t the most important thing right now.One of the easiest habits to get stuck in, besides procrastinating, is to keep yourself busy with unimportant tasks.To be effective you probably need some kind of time management-system.It might be something really simple, like using the 80/20-rule at the beginning of each day.The 80/20 rule, or the Pareto Principle as it′s also known, says that you′ll get 80 percent of your results from only 20 percent of your tasks and activities.So you need to focus most of your energy on those few important tasks to be effective.When you have prioritized using this rule just write down the top 3 most important things you need to do that day.Then, from the top, start doing them.Even if you just get one of the things done, you have still done the most important thing you could do today.You may perhaps prefer some other system, such as GTD.But however you organise your work it’s still of highest priority to find the most important tasks so you don’t spend days, weeks or months doing busywork that isn’t that essential anyway.Just getting things done faster isn’t that useful if the things you get done are unimportant to you.4.Thinking too much.And thereby seldom taking action.Paralysis by analysis can waste years of your life.There is nothing wrong with thinking before you do something.Do some research, make a plan, explore potential upsides and problems.But compulsively thinking and thinking and thinking is just another way to waste your time.You don’t have to examine everything from every angle before you try it.And you can’t wait for the perfect time to do something.That time never comes.And if you keep thinking you’ll just dig yourself down deeper and deeper and taking action will become more and more difficult.Instead you just need to stop thinking.Shut of your mind – it just helps you up to a point – and go do whatever you need to do.5.Seeing the negative and downsides in just about anything.When you see everything from a negative perspective you quickly punch a hole in your own motivation.You find faults everywhere and problems where there are really none.You cling to details.If you want to find a reason to not do something then that’s no problem.From a negative viewpoint you can find ten reasons every time.And so very little gets done, you whine to anyone who wants to hear – and many who don’t – about how crappy your job, life and boss is.Which becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy as you create the life that is appropriate considering how think and see your world.A solution is to realise the limits of a negative perspective.And that your perspective isn’t some kind of 100% true picture of the world.Then try other perspectives.For instance, trying to establish a habit of seeing things in a more positive and optimistic light can be quite useful.In that vein, you may want to try the Positivity Challenge.It′s not easy, but if you do the challenge and try to only think positive thoughts for 7 days it can give you an insight in how much your perspective and beliefs changes how you interpret your world.And what results you get.6.Clinging to your own thoughts and being closed to outside influences.It can be hard to admit that what you thought or believed was not the best alternative.So you cling to your thoughts harder and harder and keep your mind closed.This makes it hard to improve and for instance to become more effective.Even really considering the possibility that you can change your life can be difficult in this position.One solution, obviously, is to open up more.To open up and learn from the mistakes of others, from your own mistakes and from other sources like books.This is easy to say though.It can, as almost anything, be harder to do.One suggestion I have is to, like I said about the previous habit, realise the limits of what you know and the way you going about things.And then just try something new.Another tip is to read A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle and especially look at the chapters about the Ego.If you stop identifying so much with your thoughts and your Ego, as Tolle prescribes, it becomes a whole a lot easier to let new ideas and thoughts come into your life.And to let go of old thoughts that aren’t useful to you anymore.On the other hand I’d like to add and counter-balance with these tips: don’t get stuck in reading, in just taking in new information either or you might become a self-help junkie.Use the new information, put what you have learned in to action and try it out.7.Constantly on information overload.With information overload I don’t just mean that you read a lot.I pretty much mean an overload in all input.If you just let all information flow into your mind it will be hard to think clearly.It’s just too much stimulation.A few more potential downsides to this habit are:
-Some of the input you receive will be negative.The media and your surroundings often put a negative spin on things for various reasons.If you aren′t selective in what input you want in your life then you’ll be dragged into this negativity too.This affects how you think, feel and act.-It creates an urge to keep up with what’s happening but there are always ten more things happening so you can’t keep up.This makes life stressful.-It becomes hard to make decisions and take action if your mind is constantly bombarded with information or trying to sort through it all.Personally I find that if I get too much information it leads to a sort of paralysis.Not much get′s done.Or you get stuck in habit #3 and keep busy, busy, busy at high speed with low priority activities.To be able to focus, think more clearly and take action it′s useful to be more selective in what you let into your mind.When you work shut out as much distractions as possible.Shut off the phone, internet and shut the door.It is strange how much you can get done when you aren′t interrupted every fifth minute or have the opportunity to procrastinate by checking your RSS-feeds or favourite websites.Now I′m not suggesting that you should stop reading all blogs or newspapers.But think about what you really want to read and what you read just read to fill your time.And have a look at other areas of input where the doors are wide-open.For instance, you don′t have to let in all the negative emotions from your surroundings.If everyone else are procrastinating or are anxiously keeping themselves busy by doing low-priority tasks at warp speed it′s easy to be influenced by that mood.If you have a door, then it might be good idea to shut it and focus on doing more important things.
第二篇:七個習慣
讀《高效能人士的七個習慣》有感
這段時間一直在看《高效能人士的七個習慣》。看過之后,感慨頗深,特和大家一起分享一 下。
“
誰也無法說服他人改變,我們每個人都守著一扇只能從內開起的改變之門,不論動之以情或說
之以理,我們都不能替別人開門
”。
我覺得這句話說得很有道理。
很多東西都只是一些外界條件,也就是我們常講的客觀因素。
本書就七個習慣進行一一地闡述,并舉了一些具體的事例進行分析。
他們就像一位經驗豐富的導師或是長者,為我們指點迷津,分析事情的來龍去脈。
他們只起到旁
敲側擊的作用,而真正起到作用的,還是我們自己,即主觀因素。
只有我們自己從內心真正接受
了,從思想上改變了。我們才會開啟內心的那一扇門。就像我看過這本書后,我覺得很多話能讓
我產生共鳴,似乎有種似曾相識的感覺。那時,我就會停下來反省自己。
我想這也算得上是從內
心開啟的一些改變和收獲吧。
“
要改變現狀,就得改變自己;
要改變自己,先得改變我們看待外界的觀點。
”
作者在書中講到:
他的兒子在學校,成績慘不忍睹,交往不成熟,運動場上不靈活。他和妻子都想幫兒子。他們把
自己的行動借助
“
幫助、關心
”的名義,強加到兒子的身上,可收到的效果是有限的。究其原因,是因為他們在內心深處,的確覺得
“
兒子不如人
”
。有了這么一種意識,他們再怎么表現,也會顯
得言不由衷。因為他們沒有改變看待外界的觀點。對于這一點,我想講一下我的父親。
他是一個
樸實的農民,但他很少說我們比別人差或者說我們不行,他會列出我們的優點,然后說: “
這些
事情你都做得很好,相信那些對于你來說是暫時的困難,一定能夠解決,也一定會做得更好!”
我不敢說我的父親有多么成功,可是,他讓我們充滿自信,并且用自己的實際行動去證明自己的能力。在這一點上,我想說他是成功的。
還記得兩年前的冬天,看湖南衛視的冰災賑災義演活動,感動得我熱淚盈眶。看到自己的家鄉
此刻遭受冰災侵襲后的現狀,我的心真的好痛。
還有那些為了他人而犧牲自己的平民英雄們,更
是讓大家幾度淚濕眼眶。
看到這么多熱心人士為我的家鄉捐贈巨額款項時,我心里的那個想法特
別強烈:
“
要改變現狀,就得改變自己,要想幫助自己的家鄉,就得先讓自己變得更強!
”
在七個習慣的闡述中,養成積極主動的習慣真的很重要,“
被動就要挨打
”——
這句話想必大家
都耳熟能詳。結合目前的形式和社會現狀來講,養成這樣的習慣,更為重要。現實是殘酷的,很
多機會,你若不主動,就有可能失之交臂。在一個新的環境里,你若是不主動和他人打招呼,不
主動虛心地向前輩請教。很多時候,你都會吃個閉門羹,甚至會有一種被孤立的感覺。
保持高傲的態度,是永遠也融合不進去的。它只能是你生活中、事業上的一個絆腳石,阻礙著你的發展。
積極主動的人是不會受天氣影響自己的心情的。
積極主動的人,心中自有一番天地。
我很欣賞這
么一段話:
“
也許我們不能移動大山,但是我們可以運作自我;也許我們不能左右天氣,但是我 們可以把握心情;也許我們不能選擇容顏,但是我們可以展露笑容;也許我們不能號令他人,但
是我們可以指揮自己;
也許我們不能預知將來,但是我們可以利用現在;
也許我們不能樣樣如意,但可以事事盡心。
”
養成積極主動的習慣,會讓我們收獲很多,無論是對學習還是工作,亦或是
做人、做事。
《高效能人士的七個習慣》確實是一本值得一讀的好書,在讀完這本書前三個習慣后,我最大的收獲是認識到要提高自己分析和解決問題的能力。
如何思考,如何行動,如何受用,在生活當
中要不斷地自我完善。更為重要的是認識了自己的不足。對自己生活、學習、工作、關系都有很
大的提高。
一個高效能人士,積極主動是必須的。僅僅靠
“
動力
”
是遠遠不夠的。在人的一生中,做任何事
情最主要的是認清方向,不要盲目的投機取巧。
在生活當中我們會遇到許多不順心的事,為什么
總是一再的抱怨。
可是成功人士為什么從不怨天尤人了,因為他們能夠以一種積極、樂觀態度看
待所發生的不幸。以終為始說明在做任何事之前,都要先認清方向。有效地掌握重點,把最重要的事放在第一位。行動之前要思考,凡是要有計劃,知道哪個最自己重要,哪個是次要,以最有
章法的節奏完成它。
可以把一天的工作用文檔的方式計劃出來,當一天工作完后,可以檢查當天的工作是否做完整,是否做到很好,如有不足的地方,進行更進一步的修改。時間的安排,事務的處理,是很重要的。
俗話說思想決定行動,行動決定習慣,習慣決定品德,品德決定命運。習慣是養成的,命運是
掌握在自己手上的。
一個人無法改變自己的思想,就永遠無法改變現實,也永遠不可能取得進步。
在完全讀完這本書后,我自己最大的收獲是深刻地認識到要提高自己分析和解決問題的能力,必須從改變自己內心深處的價值觀、對事物的認知方法以及對競爭環境的理解入手,也就是提高
自身的素質,同時輔助一些必要和實用的有效方法。
“
積極主動
”的態度,“
以終為始
”的愿景,“
要
事
114”的把握,“
雙贏思維
”的互賴,“
知彼解己
”的溝通,“
統合綜效
”的合作,“
不斷更新
”的創造,會使每一個人走向世成功的彼岸。
《高效能人士的七個習慣》中的七個習慣是一個整體,它們相輔相成,既講到了個人要全力以
赴確立目標,進行個人修煉,并由依賴轉向獨立,從而實現
“
個人成功
”,也講到了要通過建立共
贏、換位溝通、集思廣益等,促進團隊溝通與合作。而不斷更新更是涵蓋了前六個習慣,督促我們從身心開始完善。
在今后的工作中,我將會通過不斷的努力和探索,通過培養這七個習慣,我相信我可以循序漸
進地獲得不斷的進步,逐漸成長為一位真正高效能的工作人員,為公司為社會創造更大的價
值。
這本書帶給我的感受遠遠不只這些,只是這些是讓我體會最深刻的。它給我們的學習、生活、工
作都帶來了無法估量的作用。它是一座通向成功的橋梁,是一本值得每個人都應該去看的書籍!
第三篇:效率低人群的七種習慣(牛津大學)中英雙語
與通常所列舉的應該培養的有益習慣不同,本文在此舉出的是我們最好避免的7種習慣。
就像尋找對你有益的習慣一樣,尋找妨礙你的習慣同樣重要。這7種習慣中大多數都可能會輕易成為你日常生活的一部分,使你難以察覺它的存在(或者它如何影響到你)。我曾經略微嘗試了這些習慣,結果毫無疑問,那些重要的事情沒有幾個可以完成。同時我也要添加說明的是,這只是在生活中你可能形成的影響效率的主要的7個習慣,我很確定絕不僅僅是這些。
1、缺席。
也許你曾經聽過伍迪·艾倫所說的這句話:
“百分之八十的成功來自于出席。”
更多的出席——這是在生活中你可以保證更多成功所做的最大也是最簡單的事情之一,無論是在你的社交生活中,你的事業上還是你的健康方面。如果你想要改善你的健康狀況,一個最重要也是最有效的事情就是在每次你該出席時出現在健身房里。
也許天氣會不好,也許你會不想出門,也許你有一大堆其他必須要做的事情。但是,如果即使你在積極性不高時仍然繼續出現在健身房里,那將比你呆在家里的沙發上放松要有效的多。
我想這個也可以推及到生活的其他領域。如果你每天都堅持寫作或繪畫,你就會快速的得到提高。如果你更多的出門你就可以遇到更多的新朋友。如果你參加更多的約會,你遇到心上人的機會就會大大提高。僅僅只是更多出席就會使你的生活大大不同。而缺席卻會使你毫無收獲。
2、拖拖拉拉。
為了簡化,我將最喜歡的3種擺脫拖拉情況的方法列舉如下:
-吞食青蛙。也就是說在一天的最開始就完成那些最艱難最重要的工作。早上良好的開始會讓你一天都保持高昂的情緒和積極的動力。這通常會使你這一天都十分高效。
-你如何吃掉一頭大象呢?不要打算一口吃成胖子,這會使你感到過多負擔以至于產生拖延的念頭。把一項工作分為若干可付諸于行動的小步驟,然后僅僅關注第一步直到把它完成,接下來再繼續下一步。
-說服自己。我發現這種向導型調整十分有效。就在我花了20分鐘躺在床上反復默念在這幾天里我都十分高效之后,我就不再會陷入拖拉的情況或者瀏覽1至5個我喜愛的網站尋找更新信息的必要。
3、做一些無關緊要的事情。
除了拖拖拉拉以外,你最容易陷入的不良習慣之一就是忙于一些無關緊要的事情之中。
為了提高效率你也許需要某種時間管理方法。它可能會是一件極為簡單的事情,比如在一天的開始使用80/20法則。80/20法則,也就是我們通常所熟悉的帕累托法則認為,80%的收獲源自20%的努力。所以為求高效你應該將你精力的大部分集中在那些極少數重要的事情上。
當使用這個法則時你只需按優先順序寫下這一天你需要做的3件最重要的事情,然后從頭做起。即使你只能完成其中的一件事,你仍然完成了今天最重要的事情。也許你也會偏愛其他諸如GTD等方法。但是無論你如何組織工作,最關鍵的還是尋找那些最重要的工作,這樣你就不必花費幾天,幾個星期甚至幾個月的時間去忙于那些并不是很重要的事情。如果這些事情無關緊要,那么即使你快速的完成它們也是沒有多大用處的。
4、多慮。
因為多慮而很少采取行動。陷于無窮的分析之中只會使你虛度光陰。行動之前加以思考是沒有錯的。做一些調查研究,制定一個計劃,探究可能存在的積極以及不利因素。
但是強制性的反復思考就會成為另外一種浪費時間的做法了。在嘗試之前你沒有必要去從每一個角度檢查每一件事情。而且你也不可以等到一個最完美的時間再去做事,因為這樣的時間從來不會出現。如果你繼續這樣思考就只會使自己陷的越來越深,從而使采取行動變得越來越難。相反,雖然思考在一定程度上對你有所幫助,但你現在需要做的就只是停止思考,然后去做那些你應該做的事情。
5、凡事過于消極。
當你凡事都從消極方面考慮時,你的積極性就會被大大打擊。你會發現到處都是問題和錯誤,而這些問題是本不存在的。你抓住細節不放。如果你想要尋找一個不做某事的理由,這當然沒有問題。而當你從一個消極角度看問題時,每次你都可能找出十個借口。
因此你幾乎一事無成。你向任何愿意傾聽的人訴苦(也許很多人并不想聽),抱怨你的工作,生活和領導有多么的差勁。你的生活取決于你如何看待這個世界,這已經成為一個能夠自我實現的預測。
對此的一個解決方法就是了解消極方面的限度,認識到你的消極思考并不是這個世界的真實寫照。然后不妨嘗試一些其他的角度。舉例來說,你可以嘗試著培養一下凡事從更為積極和樂觀的角度思考的習慣,這會對你大有幫助。通過這種方式,你也許就會開始嘗試這種積極性的挑戰。這并不容易,然而如果你接受了這種挑戰,連續7天都只從積極方面思考,你就會突然意識到你看問題的角度和想法是如此深刻地影響著你對世界的理解和你所得到的成果。
6、固執己見,與世隔絕。
人們很難去承認自己的想法不是最佳選擇,因此你越來越執著于自己的想法,變得閉目塞聽。這會讓你很難取得進步,比如說效率就會很難提高。在這種情況下,即使認真思考改變人生的可能性都會變得很難。
顯然,解決方法之一就是打開心胸。開闊視野,從他人和自己的錯誤中汲取教訓,從書籍等資源中獲取知識。與任何事一樣,這事說起來容易做起來難。正如前面所說,對此我的建議就是認識到你的知識領域畢竟是有限的,而你做事的方式也會存在不足。那么不妨就嘗試一下新事物吧。
而我的另一條建議就是,閱讀一下埃克哈特·托利的《新天地》,特別是有關Ego的章節。正如托利所建議的,如果你不再像Ego那樣思考,你就會更加容易接受新思想,拋棄那些已經無用的舊思想。另外我想要補充說明的就是:不要迷信書本,也不要盲目追求新的信息,否則你就會成為一個沉迷于自我幫助的人。在行動中運用那些新信息和你學到的事情,然后加以嘗試。
7、持續信息過剩。
信息過剩并不是說你過多的閱讀,我所指的是所有輸入信息的過剩。如果你讓所有的信息都涌進大腦,這當然會導致難于清晰思考,因為刺激源太多了。以下就是這種習慣可能會存在的弊端:
-你所接受的一些信息也許會是消極的。媒體和周圍環境會因種種原因提供一種消極的信息。如果你沒有根據需要對信息加以選擇,也許你就會陷入消極之中,從而影響到你的所思,所感,所為。
-這會使你急于追趕當今發生的事情,然而每時每刻都有十幾件事同時發生,想要追趕上它們幾乎是不可能的事情。你的生活會因此充滿壓力。
-如果你持續被信息轟炸,并且還試圖將所有信息分類,那么你將很難做出決定并采取行動。就我個人而言,如果我得到過多的信息,就會造成某種形式上的癱瘓,一事無成。或者你會被這種習慣所困,終日急于忙碌在一些非重要的事情上。
為了可以集中精力,清晰思考并付諸行動,你就需要在吸取信息時更有選擇性。當你工作時盡可能的避免那些分散注意力的事物。關掉電話,斷開網絡,關上大門。你就會不可思議的發現,當你沒有每隔五分鐘就被打擾一次,沒有機會因瀏覽RSS-feeds或喜愛的網站而拖延時,居然可以完成這么多的事情。
現在并不是說我建議你們停止閱讀所有的博客或報紙。但是一定要清楚哪些是你真正想要閱讀的,哪些只是用來打發時間的。同時你也可以查看其他開闊性信息的領域。
比如說,你沒有必要陷入所有來自周圍環境的消極情緒。如果周圍的所有人都在拖延或者焦急的忙于各種非重要的事情時,你會很容易被這種情緒所影響。如果你有一扇心靈之門,關上它而去關注更為重要的事情,這會是個不錯的主意。Habits of Highly Ineffective People
By Henrik Edberg
With a twist to the common list of habits that are useful to establish, here are 7 habits that you do best to avoid.Just like finding habits that can be useful for you it’s important to find habits that are holding you back.Most of these 7 habits can easily become such a normal, everyday part of life that you hardly notice it(or how it’s affecting you).I’ve dabbled with all of them quite a bit.Not surprisingly I didn’t get much of the important stuff done.I′d also like to add that these are just 7 broad habits you can establish to become highly ineffective in most parts of your life.I pretty sure there are several more.1.Not showing up.Maybe you’ve heard this quote by Woody Allen: “Eighty percent of success is showing up”
One of the biggest and simplest thing you can do to ensure more success in your life – whether it be in your social life, your career or with your health – is simply to show up more.If you want to improve your health then one of the most important and effective things you can do is just to show up at the gym every time you should be there.The weather might be bad, you might not feel like going and you find yourself having all these other things you just must do.If you still go, if you show up at the gym when motivation is low you will improve a whole lot faster than if you just stayed at home relaxing on the sofa.I think this applies to most areas of life.If you write or paint more, each day perhaps, you will improve quickly.If you get out more you can meet more new friends.If you go on more dates you chances of meeting someone special increases.Just showing up more can really make a big difference.Not showing up will not get you anywhere.2.Procrastinating half the day.To keep it short, my 3 favourite ways to get out of a procrastinating state are:
-Swallow that frog.What′s this means is simply to do the hardest and most important task of the day first thing in the morning.A good start in the morning lifts your spirits and creates a positive momentum for the rest of the day.That often creates a pretty productive day.-How do you eat an elephant? Don′t try to take it all in one big bite.It becomes overwhelming which leads to procrastination.Split a task into small actionable steps.Then just focus on the first step and nothing else.Just do that one until it’s done.Then move on to the next step.-The Get around to It Paraliminal.I find this guided mediation to be very useful.After 20 minutes of mostly just lying on my bed and listening I’m far more productive for a few days.I don′t feel the urge to sink into that procrastinating state or the need to find out what’s new over at one or five of my favourite websites.3.When actually doing something, doing something that isn’t the most important thing right now.One of the easiest habits to get stuck in, besides procrastinating, is to keep yourself busy with unimportant tasks.To be effective you probably need some kind of time management-system.It might be something really simple, like using the 80/20-rule at the beginning of each day.The 80/20 rule, or the Pareto Principle as it′s also known, says that you′ll get 80 percent of your results from only 20 percent of your tasks and activities.So you need to focus most of your energy on those few important tasks to be effective.When you have prioritized using this rule just write down the top 3 most important things you need to do that day.Then, from the top, start doing them.Even if you just get one of the things done, you have still done the most important thing you could do today.You may perhaps prefer some other system, such as GTD.But however you organise your work it’s still of highest priority to find the most important tasks so you don’t spend days, weeks or months doing busywork that isn’t that essential anyway.Just getting things done faster isn’t that useful if the things you get done are unimportant to you.4.Thinking too much.And thereby seldom taking action.Paralysis by analysis can waste years of your life.There is nothing wrong with thinking before you do something.Do some research, make a plan, explore potential upsides and problems.But compulsively thinking and thinking and thinking is just another way to waste your time.You don’t have to examine everything from every angle before you try it.And you can’t wait for the perfect time to do something.That time never comes.And if you keep thinking you’ll just dig yourself down deeper and deeper and taking action will become more and more difficult.Instead you just need to stop thinking.Shut of your mind – it just helps you up to a point – and go do whatever you need to do.5.Seeing the negative and downsides in just about anything.When you see everything from a negative perspective you quickly punch a hole in your own motivation.You find faults everywhere and problems where there are really none.You cling to details.If you want to find a reason to not do something then that’s no problem.From a negative viewpoint you can find ten reasons every time.And so very little gets done, you whine to anyone who wants to hear – and many who don’t – about how crappy your job, life and boss is.Which becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy as you create the life that is appropriate considering how think and see your world.A solution is to realise the limits of a negative perspective.And that your perspective isn’t some kind of 100% true picture of the world.Then try other perspectives.For instance, trying to establish a habit of seeing things in a more positive and optimistic light can be quite useful.In that vein, you may want to try the Positivity Challenge.It′s not easy, but if you do the challenge and try to only think positive thoughts for 7 days it can give you an insight in how much your perspective and beliefs changes how you interpret your world.And what results you get.6.Clinging to your own thoughts and being closed to outside influences.It can be hard to admit that what you thought or believed was not the best alternative.So you cling to your thoughts harder and harder and keep your mind closed.This makes it hard to improve and for instance to become more effective.Even really considering the possibility that you can change your life can be difficult in this position.One solution, obviously, is to open up more.To open up and learn from the mistakes of others, from your own mistakes and from other sources like books.This is easy to say though.It can, as almost anything, be harder to do.One suggestion I have is to, like I said about the previous habit, realise the limits of what you know and the way you going about things.And then just try something new.Another tip is to read A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle and especially look at the chapters about the Ego.If you stop identifying so much with your thoughts and your Ego, as Tolle prescribes, it becomes a whole a lot easier to let new ideas and thoughts come into your life.And to let go of old thoughts that aren’t useful to you anymore.On the other hand I’d like to add and counter-balance with these tips: don’t get stuck in reading, in just taking in new information either or you might become a self-help junkie.Use the new information, put what you have learned in to action and try it out.7.Constantly on information overload.With information overload I don’t just mean that you read a lot.I pretty much mean an overload in all input.If you just let all information flow into your mind it will be hard to think clearly.It’s just too much stimulation.A few more potential downsides to this habit are:
-Some of the input you receive will be negative.The media and your surroundings often put a negative spin on things for various reasons.If you aren′t selective in what input you want in your life then you’ll be dragged into this negativity too.This affects how you think, feel and act.-It creates an urge to keep up with what’s happening but there are always ten more things happening so you can’t keep up.This makes life stressful.-It becomes hard to make decisions and take action if your mind is constantly bombarded with information or trying to sort through it all.Personally I find that if I get too much information it leads to a sort of paralysis.Not much get′s done.Or you get stuck in habit #3 and keep busy, busy, busy at high speed with low priority activities.To be able to focus, think more clearly and take action it′s useful to be more selective in what you let into your mind.When you work shut out as much distractions as possible.Shut off the phone, internet and shut the door.It is strange how much you can get done when you aren′t interrupted every fifth minute or have the opportunity to procrastinate by checking your RSS-feeds or favourite websites.Now I′m not suggesting that you should stop reading all blogs or newspapers.But think about what you really want to read and what you read just read to fill your time.And have a look at other areas of input where the doors are wide-open.For instance, you don′t have to let in all the negative emotions from your surroundings.If everyone else are procrastinating or are anxiously keeping themselves busy by doing low-priority tasks at warp speed it′s easy to be influenced by that mood.If you have a door, then it might be good idea to shut it and focus on doing more important things.
第四篇:七個習慣讀后感 (推薦)
《高效能人士的七個習慣》讀后感
最近,讀了一本書,名為《高效能人士的七個習慣》,七個習慣讀后感。讀完此書,感覺有很多收獲,現將體會談出來與大家一起分享。
從書中所談到的“七個習慣”來看,人的品德和觀念是取得高效能的基礎。七個習慣分別是:
習慣一:積極主動------個人愿景的原則
積極主動這個詞如今經常出現在管理方面的著作中,它的涵義不僅僅是采取行動,還代表人必須為自己負責。個人行為取決于自身,而非外部環境:理智可以或者戰勝感情;人有能力也有責任創造有利的外在環境。
習慣二:以終為始-----自我領導的原則
“以終為始”的習慣可以適用于各個不同的生活層面,而最基本的目的還是人生的最終期許,它是以所有事物都經過兩次創造的原則為基礎的。所有的事物都有心智的即第一次創造,和實際的即第二次創造,讀后感《七個習慣讀后感》。我們做任何事都是先在心中構想,然后付諸實
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31習慣三:要事第一------自我管理的原則
有效管理是掌握重點式的管理,它把最重要的事放在第一位。有領導決定什么是重點后,再靠自制力來掌握重點,時刻把他們放在第一位,以免被感覺、情緒或沖動所左右。要集中精力于當急的要務,就得排除次要事物上的牽絆,此時要有說“不”的勇氣。
習慣四:雙贏思維------人際領導的原則
利人利己者把生活看作是一個合作的舞臺,而不是一個角斗場。一般人看事多用二分法:非強即弱,非勝即敗。其實世界之大,人人都有足夠的立足空間,他人之得不必就視為自己之失。
習慣五:知彼解己------同理心交流的原則
首先尋求去了解對方,然后爭取讓對方了解自己。這一原則是進行有效人際交流的關鍵。
習慣六:統合綜效------創造性合作的原則
在互賴關系中,綜合效益是對付阻撓成長與改變的最有力的途徑。助力通常是積極、合理、自覺、符合經濟效益的力量;相反地,阻力多半消極、負面、不合邏輯、情緒化、不自覺。不設法消除阻力,只一味增加推力,就仿佛施力于彈簧上,終有一天引起反彈。如果配合雙贏的動機、同理心的溝通技巧與統合綜效的整合功夫,不僅可以破解阻力,甚至可以化阻力為動力。
習慣七:不斷更新------平衡的自我更新原則
人生最值得投資的就是磨練自己,因為生活與服務人群都得靠自己,這是最珍貴的工具。工作本身并不能帶來經濟上的安全感,具備良好的思考、學習、創造與適應能力,才能立于不敗之地。擁有財富,并不代表經濟獨立,擁有創造財富的能力才真正可靠。
七個習慣的前三個習慣可以使人從依賴達到自立,而進一步養成了后四個習慣的人則是最高境界的人。
第五篇:七個習慣讀后感文檔
正如一個人的杰出并不需要一個完美的人生,一本書的優秀并不因為它所表達的一切都是真理,而是因為他的某些部分表達了可能被忽視的真理。書中講的道理通俗易懂,字里行間都帶著闖勁和拼搏精神,大力宣揚個人的命運受自己控制。在讀完這本書后,我自己最大的收獲是深刻地認識到要提高自己分析和解決問題的能力,必須從改變自己內心深處的價值觀、對事物的認知方法以及對競爭環境的理解入手,也就是提高自身的素質,同時輔助一些必要和實用的有效方法。
這本書中的七個習慣是一個整體,它們相輔相成,既講到了個人要全力以赴確立目標,進行個人修煉,并由依賴轉向獨立,從而實現“個人成功”,也講到了要通過建立共贏、換位溝通、集思廣益等,促進團隊溝通與合作。而不斷更新更是涵蓋了前六個習慣,督促我們從身心開始完善。其中讓我啟發最大的是“要事第一”這一種習慣。“積極主動”的態度,“以終為始”的愿景,“要事第一”的把握,“雙贏思維”的互賴,“知彼解己”的溝通,“統合綜效”的合作,“不斷更新”的創造,會使每一個人走向成功的彼岸。這本書為渴望成功的人給出了方法,對于渴望成功的人而言,“渴望”的程度和決心至關重要,要按照書中所寫去做還是很難的。做事的恒心和毅力,決定了成功的可能性。性格決定命運,如果你要改變自己的命運,首先要改變自己的性格。本書沒太多提及性格,但頻繁的用了“習慣”二字。作者認為習慣是知識、技能和意愿的交匯。知道自己要做什么,也清楚應該怎么做,更有這個意愿去做,三者的交匯構成個人行事做人的習慣。通過改變個人的習慣,實現個人性格的改變,最終能夠改變自己的命運。
讀書的根本目的是為了學習前人和他人的經驗,是為了把握更多有用的知識和技能。只有把從書中學來的東西用到實踐中,才能真正達到讀書的目的。在今后的工作中,我將會通過不斷的努力和探索,通過培養這七個習慣,我相信我可以循序漸進地獲得不斷的進步,逐漸成長為一位真正高效能的優秀人才。