第一篇：日記與心靈的溝通

日記與心靈的溝通

愛因斯坦說過：“任何一種偉大高尚的事物，無論是藝術還是科學成就，都來源于獨立的個性。”培養出人的獨立個性，是教育工作者的職責，而日記恰巧是能夠將這種個性反映出來的文字表達方式。但是，學生剛開始接觸日記時總會抱怨無話可說，無話可寫，時間久了，就容易產生厭煩情緒。其實，日記是表情達意的工具：心中不快，通過日記渲泄，達到心平氣和、心中歡喜；通過日記訴說，心情恢復平正。在日記里，可以談天說地，可以描繪未來，可以直抒胸臆……要想做到這一點，必須克服畏懼寫日記的心理障礙，要以平常心對待日記，要把日記當作自己的伙伴，當作貼心的朋友。只有這樣，才能徹底走出日記教學的怪圈，才能徹底放松學生的手腳，才能有真正意義上的快樂日記。那么，怎樣才能讓學生把日記當作最好的伙伴呢？

（一）和日記一起訴說

生活是寫作的源泉，日記就是把我們周圍的生活寫出來，把平日所見、所聞、所做、所想的寫出來，敘述喜聞樂見的事情，刻畫具體可感的人物，描寫時時變化的風景。新頒布的《全日制義務教育語文課程標準》中就明確指出：寫作應貼近學生實際，讓學生易于動筆，樂于表達；應引導學生關注現實、熱愛生活，表達真情實感。比如深秋的一天，刮起了風。頓時，落葉紛飛。樹上的葉子飄然而下，地上的葉子也追著、趕著往前跑，好一幅大自然的美景。筆者馬上召喚正在早讀的學生們出來觀察。同學們一出教室，就被吸引住了，爭著拾飄飛的落葉，追著撿地上的落葉，還比賽誰撿的多，誰撿的漂亮。回到教室，馬上讓學生分組說說自己看到的景象。同學們七嘴八舌，爭著說自己的發現，整個教室充滿了熱烈的氣氛。在大家的共同討論下，決定以《群蝶飛舞》或者《落葉紛飛》為題寫一篇日記。不久，在大人眼中司空見慣的落葉竟被學生形容得妙不可言。有位同學寫道：“看啊！一片片彩蝶般的落葉，正跳著芭蕾舞比美呢！瞧呀！它們互相追逐著，飄飄悠悠，在空中打著轉兒，戀戀不舍地離開了樹媽媽，極不情愿地落在地上。又像淘氣的孩子，腳一著地又立刻飛了起來，好像總也玩不夠。不一會兒，葉子在地上不動了。輕輕吹來一陣風，它們又慢慢地散起步來，直到走累了為止。”

生活中可寫的東西太多，校長的講話、老師的講課、父母的叮囑、上學路上的風景、餐桌上的閑聊、一次實驗、一張照片、一次電話等，只要留意生活，只要真心去感受生活，日記就會成為你忠實的記錄者，成為最好的伙伴，讓人進一步體會生活的滋味，豐富敏感的心靈。我們煩惱時，可以向它傾訴；我們快樂時，可以和它分享；我們痛苦時，它會給你安撫；我們愁悶時，它會悄悄地到你身邊，默默地跟著我們，讓我們不覺得孤獨。煩惱的時候，和日記說說自己的心理話，排解心中的煩惱。今年春天，陰雨連綿，數日不晴。每天教室的地面都是濕淋淋的，運動會一再推遲，五一長假也只能無聊地待在家中。于是許多同學都以“煩人的雨”為主題寫了一篇日記，在日記中抱怨這幾天的煩心事。

（二）和日記一起畫畫

我們的世界、我們的生活是豐富多彩的，但也需要用眼睛和思維去認識世界，需要用情感去感受這個世界。有目的地讓學生感受自然和社會，有利于學生的成長、發展。畫畫就是教人學會“看”，學會觀察、欣賞大自然，訓練學生觀察形狀、色彩的能力。學生的日記可以用畫來再現，看到一幅畫，可以用文字來表現。觀察的表述過程實際就是再現一幅幅畫面，再用文字寫出來，日記和畫畫關系十分密切，和日記一起畫畫尤為重要。山坡下有幾株松樹，直直地挺立著，濃綠的樹冠，鑲上了金燦燦的寬邊。面對這樣的場景，用眼睛去勾勒、去著色，會發現松樹不同的美。

（三）和日記一起編故事

孩子在小時候，喜歡編故事、講故事，有時講給小朋友聽，有時講給爸爸媽媽聽，有時還自言自語。家長應該看到這既是鍛煉表達能力的好機會，也是發展想象力的好機會。要積極鼓勵孩子，不要冷言冷語，更不能隨便阻止。《新課程標準》中指出：“要引導學生說真話、實話、心里話，不說假話、空話、套話。激發學生展開想象和幻想，鼓勵寫想象中的事物。”因此，家長平時就該引導孩子按照某個主題去編去講，適時地給以贊揚，指出不足。好的故事，讓孩子用筆記錄下來，不斷修改。天長日久，孩子的想象能力會越來越強。

（四）和日記一起旅游

外出旅游是孩子們十分向往的一項戶外活動。每次在課堂上宣布這一消息時，大家總是歡呼雀躍，興奮不已。的確，旅游途中不僅能欣賞到祖國各地的山川美景，也為學生日記提供了豐富的素材，激發學生記日記的欲望。教師可抓住這一教育契機因勢利導，鼓勵孩子們設計具有自己特色的日記，如在日記本上貼相片、剪報、旅游勝地的門券、郵票、明信片……某位同學在日記旁，就貼了一張上海自然博物館舉辦“澳大利亞珍稀動物標本展覽”的入場券，藍色的鴨嘴獸圖案非常醒目。這樣圖文并茂的日記，不僅做的時候有味道，將來讀的時候恐怕更有味道。

心理學家認為：“興趣是一個人能量的激素。”對一件事物產生濃厚興趣的人，他的智能會得到充分的發揮。興趣有一種神奇的力量，它會為學習某一件技藝增添上一層斑斕的色彩。我們知道，寫日記是一件艱苦的勞動，但它同時又能激發莫大的愉悅。一旦對日記產生了興趣，它必將成為啟迪、挖掘寫作才能的一種啟動力。寫日記一旦成為孩子的日常習慣，日記就會像“嚴師”一樣督促孩子每天必須完成訓練；寫日記一旦成為孩子的日常愛好，日記就會像“摯友”一樣鼓勵孩子把訓練做好。這樣無聲的督促和鼓勵，對促進孩子作文的進步，是學校的教育和家長的指導無法替代的。

第二篇：溝通,與孩子心靈對話

《溝通，與孩子心靈對話》教學設計

教學目標：

1、讓家長明白親子溝通的重要性。

2、讓家長了解親子溝通的基本策略。

3、學習將溝通技巧用于實踐中。教學重點：了解親子溝通的基本策略。教學難點：在現實生中運用溝通的技巧。教學準備：PPT 教學過程：

一、游戲導入

家長朋友們，首先感謝你們來參加本次的家長會。游戲：由孩子聯想到的??

請家長們按照順序，按“孩子像??，因為??”這樣的句式說一句話。總結：從家長們的交談中，我感受到了大家對孩子都充滿了濃濃的愛，讓人感到溫馨。

二、了解親子溝通的重要性

（一）故事分享

應該說每個父母都愛自己的孩子，但每個做父母自己不一定都知道如何去愛孩子。也并不是每一個孩子都能真正理解父母對自己的愛。

下面我來給大家分享一個故事：

主持人：有這么一所學校，一位新老師來給同學們上課。在極為融洽的課堂里，老師看到了一個和這個氣氛格格不入的男孩。他讓新上任的唐老師感覺心疼。

唐老師：在語文課上，我看到了那個孩子——目光呆滯，對于周圍的一切都沒啥反應，似乎活在自己的世界里。后來我知道了這個孩子叫奇奇。他平時不愿意和同學交流，總是一個人坐在位子上。我想和他談心，可他卻始終閉著嘴，眼睛直勾勾地看著你。好不容易孩子開口了，他告訴我前一段時間他和班級里的同學鬧矛盾了，他一生氣就把同學的文具盒摔壞了。老師找到他的家長。爸爸到校后沒問前因后果，當著全班同學的面給了他一耳光。奇奇在那個情況下憤怒極了，心理恨極了爸爸。一句話也沒有和爸爸說，因為他覺得沒有什么可以和他說的。奇奇認為自己沒有什么可以和爸爸好說的了，爸爸當著眾人扇他的一耳光讓孩子失去了很多，他覺得自己一點面子也沒有了，以后怎么在老師、同學面前抬起來頭來啊。想到以后要被同學們瞧不起，他就特別不想在這個班級再待下去了。

聽了孩子的敘述，我很心疼，特地去拜訪奇奇的爸爸，交流時我問孩子的爸爸為什么因為這樣一件事就在班上打了奇奇。爸爸也很無奈，他告訴我奇奇以前是一個很調皮的孩子，常犯一些錯誤。當時被老師叫到學校，他感覺很丟面子，因為當時太生氣了，就動手打了孩子。

我又問了奇奇爸：當時打了孩子，心理怎么想的？奇奇爸說：當時打孩子也是一時沖動，心里想著對孩子要嚴格要求，沒想太多就動手了。當時也沒想到孩子也是有自尊心的，自己的一巴掌就這樣把孩子的面子打沒了。從那次以后孩子徹底改變了，變得行為怪異起來，在班級里沉默不語，性格變得很內向，不再愿意跟別人交往，在家里也不愿意和家人說話了，問他總說要換班，再也不想去那個班了??后來，奇奇爸也對自己的一耳光后悔不已。

我又問奇奇爸：有沒有想過辦法來彌補現狀。奇奇爸說：事后家里人做了很多事情來幫助奇奇走出這個事件的陰影。當他不愿意和同學玩，不愿意跟同學講話的時候，我們就專門邀請同學來家里聚會，還特地買了很多有關與同學交往的書給他看??當他不愿意和家人講話的時候，我們專門挑他喜歡看的電視陪他一起看，主動和他討論電視情節，找了很多話題和他聊天，了解他在想些什么，在做些什么??

交流后，我特地開展了一個《誰能成為奇奇最好的朋友》的活動。讓同學們說說想和他成為好朋友的原因，上課時我們還和同學們約好用設計好的有特殊節奏的掌聲歡迎奇奇在課堂上發言??

經過一段時間的努力，奇奇和同學們的交流多起來了。他爸也打電話告訴我孩子在家里笑容多起來了，也主動和家里人交流了。他還主動報名參加了班級的朗誦表演。

在一次談心中，奇奇主動和我說：那件事情發生后，雖然當時很生氣，但是事情發生那么久了，他也不生爸爸的氣了，現在他和同學的關系也比以前好了，自己也不覺得在班級里沒有立足之處了。

主持人：為了使奇奇走出心理陰影，唐老師前后花了將近兩年的時間。有些家長在教育孩子的時候，總覺得自己是家長，教育孩子是天經地義的事情，卻沒有想到當著別人的面來數落孩子甚至動手，會使孩子的自尊心受到很大的傷害，結果讓孩子心理上留下陰影，給孩子身心造成很大的傷害。

（二）討論

聽了這個故事，您有什么想說的呢？ 組織家長討論。交流自己的感想。

（三）總結

所以，當您在家庭教育中出現了一些難題，當您越來越不知道您的孩子的頭腦里在想些什么，當您的孩子不再能把您的話聽到心里去，那您就要反思一下家庭教育中的關鍵問題——溝通。

在孩子的一生中，與孩子間的溝通是家庭教育的重要組成部分。據調查分析證明，許多孩子的心理問題的克服、矯治，家庭教育的作用是學校教育所不可替代的，家長經常與孩子進行正常的溝通，在孩子成長過程中往往起著非常重要的作用。

溝通，是相互尊重，認可對方是獨立的生命個體，彼此在人格上是平等的，而不是將自己的思想強加于對方的思想和意志，企圖越俎代庖，包攬一切，以自己的價值標準代替對方的價值標準。作為家長應給孩子一個相對獨立的思想活動的空間。

溝通，是彼此敞開心扉，進行心靈對話，真誠傾聽和傾訴，既增進相互了解，更努力理解彼此的心境和思維方式，將心比心。換位思考。對于孩子，要以和藹的目光喚起自己心中感受和困惑的愿望，并對他們給予更多的理解和認可。

（四）升華

孩子健全人格的培養與家庭良好的親子溝通是分不開的。溝通有助于孩子形成自尊、自立、自強、自信的品質。所以，各位家長朋友一定要重視與孩子之間的溝通。

三、親子溝通的三個問題。

（一）親子間的相互認知問題

現在很多家長對家庭教育雖然十分重視，但對自己孩子并不太了解，有的家長對子女期望值過高；有的家長對子女的要求過嚴，看不到子女的優點；有的家長只注意子女的智力開發和學習成績，而忽略了子女的個性發展??

其實，孩子對父母也不了解，最突出的問題是孩子對父母期望的認知程度，也就是說孩子對父母的期望是否知道，是否了解，認知的深淺程度又是如何。

據調查，小學生在家長對自己學業、技藝、才能等要求方面的期望與家長一致的只占30%，主要原因是小學生以形象思維為主，對父母易于表達的期望，如父母對其學習的滿意程度，他們能直接的感知，并且能與父母一致。而有些抽象的或不易于直接表達的期望，如父母希望他們長大后憑“一技之長”來“出人頭地”，他們可能不能理解，其認知就很難與父母一致了。因此，要使孩子對父母的認知與父母對孩子的認知一致，則要求父母從孩子的角度出發，把自己的期望、要求，對客觀事物的看法等傳遞給孩子，取得與孩子的共識，這樣親子關系在認知方面會比較和諧一致，家庭教育就有一個良好的基礎。

（二）親子之間的情感與態度

從目前顯示情況我們可以看到父母對孩子的情感和態度表現為七種類別：1.過度保護型。2.溺愛型。3.專制型。4.理智型。5.期待過高型。6.嚴厲型。7.忽略性。在父母對孩子的情感與態度的教育環境影響下，孩子對父母的情感與態度也呈現為十種類別：1.順從型。2.希望型。3.信任型。4.體諒型。5.協調型。6.理智型。7.無耐型。8.冷漠型。9.懼怕型。10.疏遠型。親子關系隨父母的教養態度的變化而變化，也就是說，具有怎樣的教養態度，就有怎樣的親子關系。

（三）溝通應該是雙向的

溝通，也應理解為雙向的，既有父母對子女心靈活動的了解、理解和盡可能多的認同，也有子女對父母心理活動的了解、理解和認同。當然，在此過程中，父母要注意適時、適度地因勢利導，巧妙地發揮引領和提升的作用。

四、交流親子溝通的現狀。

各位家長朋友，你們平時在家是怎么跟孩子溝通的呢？ 請與坐在你旁邊的家長朋友做一個交流。全體家長交流：

1、從溝通的內容、頻率、主動性和滿意度等方面進行交流。

2、提出自己的困惑。

五、親子溝通的策略 親子溝通是家庭教育中的一件大事，但是如何溝通，這是我們應該特別注重的。

（一）試著理解尊重孩子

被尊重被理解是孩子的最基本心理需求之一，當一個孩子覺得自己被理解、被尊重的時候，他的內心是溫暖的、安全的、放松的，沒有疑慮、沒有孤獨感的。因此，理解、尊重孩子能夠有效地拉近您與孩子之間的心理距離，縮小“代溝”。

理解是一種無條件的喜愛與尊重的情感，它需要你的無私和愛心。這在親子之間，本來應該沒有問題，但事實并不是沒有問題。作為父母，我們往往把自己的面子看得很重，我們往往希望子女無條件的聽從我們，我們卻不能無條件的去尊重子女。當然，這并不是要求家長去認同孩子的一切觀點和行為，而是我們要能夠設身處地站在孩子的位置，用他們的眼睛去看，用他們的耳朵去聽，用他們的頭腦去想。

理解孩子也并不是嬌寵孩子。做父母的如果不能理解孩子，孩子就會向外尋找理解他們的人。反之，父母若能理解他們，他們就會感到家庭的溫暖、安全，就會愿意與父母溝通。沒有理解，一切教育、引導都難有真正好的效果！家長與孩子之間需要理解，理解是愛心和尊重的具體體現。父母對子女，一般都不缺少愛心，但往往缺乏尊重。因為欠缺尊重，結果連愛心也感覺不到了。現在你不妨從理解開始，你與孩子的心理距離馬上就會縮小。將心比心，孩子會對你更加信任。

（二）把自己的真實想法告訴孩子

在與孩子溝通時，還要能準確地向孩子傳達出自己內心的想法、愿望，使孩子能夠感覺到父母批評、教育中所包含的關愛和善意是非常重要的，這可以減少由于父母言辭不妥而引發孩子的抵觸情緒。

有這樣一個例子：有一天，我的一位學生放學后在該回家的時候還沒有回家。家長開始想：這孩子，又貪玩了。繼而是憤怒：都什么時候了，人影子都不見！不等她，我們先吃飯！心里想：她回來非得“好好教育”她一頓不可！左等右等還不回來，家長越來越焦慮：這孩子不會出什么事吧？越想越害怕，開始一個一個打電話詢問女兒的同學。正在此時，門鈴響了，母親迫不及待地去開門，（接下來會怎么樣？大家想一下），這位母親是怎么做的呢？劈頭一陣責罵：“你死哪里去了？！害得我們差一點沒去報案......”女兒試圖解釋，但母親此刻哪里容得下女兒的解釋？劈臉又是一個巴掌，打得女兒捂著臉跑進自己的房間去嗚嗚地哭起來。這位家長用“責罵和巴掌”傳達了自己對女兒的那一份刻骨銘心的關愛。

做父母的，原本出于“愛和善意”的管教，常常被這種不當的方式所遮掩。當父母對著孩子憤怒責罵的時候，父母的“愛心”往往被湮沒在“粗暴的管教行為”之中。盡管許多父母在責罵孩子的同時，不時聲稱“我是為你好”，但孩子聽到的卻是如雷貫耳的斥罵聲，很難感受到父母的愛心和善意。做父母的往往沉浸在自己的出發點完全是“為了孩子好”而一意孤行，甚至根本沒有想過孩子怎么看自己。我們的管教如果建立在孩子當時的對立情緒上，又如何能真正生效？我們為什么不在一開始就讓孩子感覺到我們對他的關心和疼愛呢？國內外都有研究表明：父母過于嚴厲、缺乏溫情的養育方式與過分保護、過分干涉一樣，都不利于孩子的健康成長。作為家長不應該用打罵和訓斥來把自己的愛心和善意偽裝、包裹起來，而應該直接地準確地把自己的感覺、想法表達出來，這樣效果會更好。

例如，家長可以這樣對晚歸的孩子說：你回來得太晚了，我們都非常為你擔心，我已經撥了十幾個電話，還差一點要打110報案了！

擔心孩子是家長真正的感覺，憤怒其實是由擔心而產生的。直接地、坦誠地把自己的感覺告訴孩子，不管她是由于正當的原因還是不正當的原因晚歸，聽到這樣的話，多半都會感受到父母的深切關心，并且產生內疚感。若有此良好的溝通為基礎，接下來的教育就容易接受了。

家長批評教育孩子，是對孩子的深切關愛，也是家長應該履行的職責、義務。但家長在批評教育孩子時，要注意表達方式：

1、?避免夸大事實。?不要用“你總是”“你肯定”“你從來”這樣的句式。憑心而論，你的本意并非認為自己的孩子真的“總是如此”、“肯定如此”、“從來如此”。所以應避免。

2、避免籠統模糊。如果你對孩子的某種行為不滿，要避免籠統的指責“你這個孩子......”而應該具體地說“你這個行為......”“你這件事......”因為你真正不滿意的是他的某個行為，而不是他這個“人”。

3、善于認錯。家長也有無理的時候，認錯時不要說“好了，好了，都是我的錯！”“反正你總是對的，我都是錯的！”準確的表達應該是：“也許你是對的”“也許是我錯了。”

總之，當我們對孩子的行為不滿時，要避免指責，而是對她說出自己真實的感覺。

（三）耐心傾聽

父母與子女之間的溝通非常重要，但在這種溝通中，我們做家長的還要注意一點就是：少說多聽。傾聽有時候會帶來意想不到的效果。我給大家舉一個例子：有一位母親，有一天得了喉炎，嗓子啞了。兒子放學回來后說：“媽媽，老師批評我了。”接著就訴說老師怎么怎么不對。當時，這位母親特別想批評兒子：你錯了，老師是對的。可是因為嗓子啞，說不出話，就只好瞪著眼睛，看著兒子說。等兒子終于說完了以后，突然兒子又說了一句：“媽媽，我謝謝您。”她當時一愣，不知兒子是什么意思。兒子又說：“謝謝您，今天聽我說了這么多話。”第二天，兒子又對媽媽說：“媽媽，你昨天雖然什么都沒說，但是我已經明白了，我錯怪了老師。”這就是傾聽的力量，不需要你去評論，孩子在說的過程中自己就醒悟了。

人與人之間需要溝通，但是不要認為溝通需要用嘴去說，其實溝通更需要用耳、用心去聽。可以說，傾聽有時候是最好的溝通。

從今天開始，讓我們在座的各位都來試著克制一下自己，改變一下自己，當發現孩子有煩惱時，不妨耐心地聆聽孩子的心聲，了解孩子真實的、細微的想法，并進行恰當的鼓勵，那你會發現與孩子更愿意跟你說心里話。

（四）豐富溝通的方法和內容

與孩子溝通的方法有很多，比如說可以給孩子寫封信，給孩子發一封郵件，還可以定期開個家庭會議，專門用一本筆記本作為“連心橋”，也可以通過啊孩子最信任的小朋友或大人作為“信息傳遞員”。

父母與孩子的溝通還應該講究更為豐富的內容。交談的內容是很廣泛的，社會的方方面面都死溝通的內容，而在此過程中彼此都可以開拓視野，實現知識上的互構，思想上的互啟，情感上的互通，彼此相得益彰。一般來講，可以有以下的內容：（1）市場信息反饋。（2）討論新鮮事物。（3）活動交際。（4）影視評論。（5）共同解決困難問題。

六、溝通，沒問題（情境表演）

下面，我為大家提供了幾個需要溝通的場景，請家長朋友們自由組合，可以談一談，也可以演一演。

1、如果你的孩子對你抱怨他的母親：“媽媽最討厭了，一天到晚嘮叨個沒完！”你的反應是什么？

2、當你的孩子對你說：“老師偏心，別人講話不批評，就批評我”時，你的反應是什么？

3.如果你對孩子過多玩電腦游戲不滿意，你怎樣告訴他？

4.老師反映原本活潑開朗的孩子變得郁郁寡歡了，你會怎么跟孩子溝通呢？

七、結語

溝通在家庭教育中占據著重要的地位。希望家長們都能走進孩子的心靈世界，共同分享孩子成長的快樂和成功的喜悅，當然，也要體會他們的難處，如果這樣做了，孩子們定能敞開心扉，把大家當成最知心的朋友。謝謝大家！

第三篇：與學生進行心靈溝通

與學生進行心靈溝通

在重視素質教育的今天，作為教師尤其是班主任的我們不僅要重視學生的知識技能目標，而且要關注學生的內心世界，與學生進行心靈溝通，用愛心來感化學生心靈，培養他們健全的人格與心理素質，使學生得到和諧發展。如果教師與學生的溝通不當，即使心懷美好的動機，也會造成很多的問題。我認為可以從以下幾個方面實現與學生心靈的溝通。

1、塑造良好的自身形象

人們常說，“身教重于言教”，主要是因為“身教”是無聲的教育，能收到“潤物細無聲”的效果。孔子說“君子懷德”，認為做老師的自己首先要有高尚的人格，才有資格去教育學生。人格魅力就是人在能力、氣質、性格等個性特征方面所具有的吸引力。高尚而富有魅力的教師人格能產生身教重于言教的良好效果。有理想的人講理想，有道德的人講道德，學生才能信服。因而，教師應努力學習，具備淵博的知識底蘊；要努力鍛造自身高尚的品格與道德情操，以此去影響和感召學生。生活中，才華橫溢、知識淵博的教師，在學生心目中往往最有威望，也最令學生信服。因此，教育者要努力成為品德高尚、處事公正、與人為善、知識淵博的人。

2、積極傾聽與反饋。傾聽是教師與學生溝通的基本技巧，也是在溝通中認識與了解學生的第一步。良好的溝通，需要耐心地聆聽對方，了解他心中的感受。在班級管理中，教師對學生的傾聽顯示了對學生的理解與尊重。在傾聽中，教師首先應表現出對學生談話的專注，其次要用簡潔及扼要的語言將學生的觀點復述出來。老師發現學生的問題之后要主動及時地找他談心，聽他的心里話，理解他、接納他。有了這樣的尊重和理解，也許不用再做任何事情，學生的心結就自然解開了。我班里有一位女生，個性較強。一次，英語老師下課后對我說，這個女生上課總是跟他對著干，沒認真聽講，批評她一句，她還氣呼呼地把課本全摔到地上。我當即把這名女生叫到辦公室，沒有批評她，而是問她是不是對老師有什么想法，開始她還不想說，后來看我態度很誠懇，于是就說出原因。原來這個女生因為有一次英語老師沒及時給她發測試卷，她便以為老師是針對她而處處跟英語老師作對。后來我請英語老師過來，對她說明情況后，她心里的疙瘩才解開，也向英語老師道了歉。

3、換位思考。一般而言，善于交往的人，往往善于發現他人的價值，懂得尊重他人，愿意信任他人，對人寬容，能容忍他人有不同的觀點和行為，不斤斤計較他人的過失，在可能的范圍內幫助他人而不是指責他人。他懂得“你要別人怎樣對待你，你就得怎樣對待別人”；懂得“己所不欲，勿施于人”；懂得“得到朋友的最好辦法是使自己成為別人的朋友”。

4、表揚與信任相結合老師對學生的表揚與信任，有助于他形成積極的自我概念，樹立自信心。表揚、信任是與學生心靈溝通的重要方式，我們除了在課堂上對學生進行及時的表 揚、鼓勵之外，還可以把這種表揚通過電話告訴家長，擴大表揚的激勵效用。有些學生總是丟三落四，總是存在這樣或那樣的缺點。這種事情本來就是難免的，如果我們總是對學生嚴厲批評、失望放棄的話，他們可能就會破罐子破摔。這時候我們應該多一點耐心，對他們充滿信任，這樣才會成為他們進步的動力。

班級管理是一門藝術，也是一門科學。我們不但需要各種技巧，更需要充滿愛心，營造一種溫暖、和諧的班級氣氛，積極關注每一個學生，走進每個學生心里，這樣就會收到事半功倍的效果，做到真正意義上的育人。

第四篇：心靈的溝通

心靈的溝通——傾聽

學情分析：

小學生由于缺乏“傾聽”的意識和習慣，也不善于傾聽課上同學們的發言，經常上課不聽講，搞小動作，竊竊私語，課堂紀律亂糟糟，難以有效完成師生互動的合作探究的教學活動。本次輔導活動的意圖在于讓學生們換位體驗，學會尊重，學會傾聽。讓學生意識到這種課堂對老師的教學產生的負面影響，改變學生對家長的教導不耐煩，在交往中對自己不感興趣的話題、不同意的觀點和與已無關內容需要其做聽眾時，具有做聽眾的意識，做出相應的意志努力。活動目標：

1．幫助學生認識傾聽的重要性。

2.體驗不同的傾聽態度和傾聽習慣帶給別人的不同感受，領悟不同的態度和做法在人際關系中的不同影響。

3．對學生進行傾聽訓練，提高他們的人際交往技巧。教學重點：學習模仿合格的傾聽行為。

教學難點：幫助學生理解養成傾聽習慣對自己成長的意義。教學方法：活動情境創設、角色扮演、冥想體驗。教學過程： 導入語：

記得老師讀師范時我的一位老師說過，“一個人的成功，15%靠專業知識，85%靠人際關系和處世技巧。”而在眾多的處世技巧中，傾聽，是一個重要的環節。

請大家欣賞一組圖片（狗狗、寶寶），連小動物和小寶寶都知道傾聽，你會嗎？

首先，讓我們做個游戲，檢驗一下你的傾聽水平怎么樣，游戲的名字叫“傳聲筒”，誰愿意給大家讀一下游戲規則？

（一）暖身活動：“傳聲筒”

① 40被一半除再加上15 ② 9+5是13，9+5+13 ③貓頭鷹和蝙蝠在黑暗中看得最清楚 ④ 網吧里有兩個學生，一個不是小學生

問：（1）哪些小組在活動中反應既快又準確？為什么？失誤的同學原因是什么？

（2）總結成功的經驗和失敗的教訓，我們會發現哪些因素能使我們成為一個好的聽者？ 過渡：

師：同學們，大文豪伏爾泰說過一句名言：“通往心靈的大路是你的耳朵。”生活需要我們時時“洗耳恭聽”，那究竟什么樣的傾聽行為才是受歡迎的呢？四人小組不妨從下面幾個角度討論一下

（二）小組討論：

1、傾聽時的目光與表情

2、傾聽時的姿勢與動作

3、當贊同或不贊同對方的觀點時

4、如果要鼓勵對方談下去時

師：那么，假如你碰到了這樣的情景，你打算如何傾聽呢？

1．好朋友小楊與同學玩藍球時手脫臼了，第二天，他走在上學的路上，看到了你，小王說：“我受傷了,真倒霉!”。

2．下課了，小圓興沖沖的過來跟你說：“昨天我看了《灰太狼和喜羊羊3》，可有意思了！”

師：同學們說的真好，老師現在也有一件心事想說給大家，想聽嗎？

今天老師和大家一起感受“傾聽”，我覺得可緊張了，因為我不知道自己講得能不能得到大家用心的傾聽，大家能用好的傾聽鼓勵我一下嗎？（生表示）謝謝同學們，你們也是最好的傾聽者！小結：

所以，訴說者要坦誠相待，傾聽者也需要智慧，這樣，才能使溝通愉快地進行下去。

（三）情景劇：

師：老師這里有兩份演講稿，想請兩位同學有感情朗讀一下

一、先將兩位演講者安排在教室外，再將表演情景劇的要求告訴全班同學

二、記者招待會：聽了兩位同學的演講，老師想做一下現場采訪。（1）聽一聽兩位同學演講后的感受是什么？

（2）剛才你在做設計么？假如你是演講者，你會有哪些感受？

（3）所以，若果你是一個演講者，更喜歡剛才前一個還是后一個環境？ 說到這里，下面老師還有有個小故事想和大家分享。

（四）故事分享：

師：Xx，我想彌補一下剛才對你做的事，你還愿意給大家讀一下嗎？請上前來

美國知名主持人林克萊特一天訪問一名小朋友，問他說：“你長大后想要當什么呀？” 小朋友天真地回答：“嗯，我要當飛機的駕駛員！” 林克萊特接著問：“如果有一天，你的飛機飛到太平洋上空所有引擎都熄火了，你會怎么辦？”小朋友想了想：“我會先告訴坐飛機上的人綁好安全帶，然后我掛上我的降落傘跳出去。”現場的觀眾大笑，都認為這個孩子是個自作聰明，不顧別人的家伙。這時，林克萊特繼續注視著這孩子，沒想到，接著孩子的兩行熱淚奪眶而出，于是林克萊特問他說：“為什么要這么做？”小孩的答案透露出一個孩子真摯的想法：“我要去拿燃料，我還要回來！我還要回來！”。師：Xx，這次的朗讀感覺如何？心情好一點了嗎？

同學們，從這個故事里你理解“聽的藝術”了嗎？

師：在這里，老師想和大家學習一個字，你知道“聽”怎么寫嗎？ 生：寫出來

師：老師知道“聽”還有另外一個寫法，是我們古人的寫法（繁體“聽”），從這個字中你體會出古人的用意了嗎？ 生：耳+目+心

過渡：

同學們，真正的傾聽，要用耳朵，用眼睛，更重要的是帶著真誠的心，那么現在我們來親身驗證一下，我們自己是否也能做到真正的傾聽呢？

（五）學生練習：

師：這里有一段音樂，請大家閉上眼睛，我們一起仔細傾聽，看看大家都能聽到些什么，看到些什么，感受到些什么？（森林狂想曲）

（六）課后練習：

師：同學們，剛才我們已經傾聽了同學的心聲，傾聽了大自然，也一直在傾聽老師的講課，可是還有一部分人，他們對我們的呵護和幫助比老師和同學都要多，那就是我們的家人，大家曾經用心傾聽過他們嗎？ 能先跟大家交流一下你打算傾聽誰嗎？為什么？

在這里老師想布置一份周末作業，就是回家傾聽他們的心聲。把你的傾聽感受回來寫在你的日記里，好嗎？ 總結：

同學們，讓我們學會傾聽吧，當我們能夠沉靜下來，目光清澈的注視著對方，微微前傾你的身姿，那么你就能聽到心與心碰撞的聲音，宛若風鈴一樣??

第五篇：心靈日記

A Long-cherished Desire(chapter one)

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.There exist two certain categories of people around us, both of whom have strengths and weaknesses, but that is what I think makes our life colorful.Let us talk about one of them first.For one thing, he perhaps does not have a good background.However, he does have a good appearance.For another, he will not have any difficulty in coping with incidents in certain scope with many friends around.But he maybe is someone who attaches much importance to the traditional relationship of family, and he is some what stubborn at some time.It is just the very characters that he owns that make him less popular in the eyes of certain people.Regardless of his weaknesses, he is still a real man supporting his family.When it comes to the other one, a figure has already captured my mind.Though enjoying a good reputation among colleagues, his background is not that good, either.Having experienced hard time in an early age, he has got what he deserves.More importantly, he enjoys a good health, which is a big fortune for him.Actually, he is not old for his age, but his learned knowledge and considerate heart have won so many people all round.Charm as he is, he has received sincere admiration from people with enthusiasm.On balance, in spite of his weakness, I will always be excited in his presence.It seems that I have a preference for the category, but what depresses me most is that it is just a legend.Something coming across easily, but never pursued.But just think over it several seconds, it has become a feast for a green heart.If memory serves me well, I have dreamt both of them in some night.If I would I can picture more of their features in detail from it.Above are only my personal opinions about them.If there are some similarities with someone, please just consider it a coincidence.2555(chapter two)

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The day is drawing near tranquilly, although I have been informed in advance, I still have no other means to control my fast-beating heart.I am now even wondering whether I should have a word with him or not.Though I know in my deep heart that he will accept my compliments, I will be sort of nervous in his presence, let alone the courage to tell the designed impression of him.Being lack of necessary skills in communicating has embarrassed my heart strongly.Actually I have not directly talked with a considerate person before he first chats with me.But now, as the yearning heart beats with curiosity, my body has already lost control of itself, running just after it.As is schemed a week earlier，there are three matters that I would like to tell him.The first may be an interesting one: What would he think and say if there is someone applauding on a highlight in a lecture? It counts for little whether I can get a certain answer to it, and what I really want to do is to express that there does exist such an occasion where I just want to applaud.Perhaps because some kind of character touches heart deeply.But in most cases I will keep silent without any reason to tell.The second one is what I think best for my potential apology, if there is any mistake.It is just the coming Band-4.Obviously his regular consideration and kindness should be taken seriously, rather than just smile them selfishly without considering his situation and other persons? feelings.After all, knowing there is someone caring for oneself is full of happiness, which will stimulate her or him to achieve what she or he has desired for a long time.There seems to lack something important when it comes to a blank heart if there are not comfortable words around.At least I think it in this way.Finally my feelings after his lecture will be served as the third one.On the one hand, please allow me to express my doubt toward the details from certain examples.However, it does matter whether they are true or not.Because they are amusing as well as meaningful, which I think is enough for teaching.To be honest, I have been more attracted by those examples, regardless of their sources.It is exactly he that makes the atmosphere in a lecture lively.On the other hand, I certainly can gain confidence in his lecture, but at the same time I also get

frustrated.Compared with the influential persons he refers to in class, though he takes proud of them, I come to feel kind of uncertain of the future without any useful guidance.So I would like to write those words just to get in touch with him.Otherwise, it will be a great loss for me to a designed fate.Just as he has put in the first class: It will probably take many years to bring both strangers from different backgrounds together.I have not learned one with so much professional knowledge and abundant experience until his appearance.If we had known each other a little earlier.But life is good enough as it is now.After all, good fortune has brought me the very character that I have sought for a long time in people.Old as he is, he always appears young and energetic for his age and keeps up a good sate of mind.In a nutshell, I have a favorable impression of him.Excited in his presence without any reason.Writing aimlessly, I myself even can not figure out what I have already written.Perhaps he would be clear about everything even without taking a glimpse at this.第二章翻譯

Durianu091213 這一天（不確定）悄悄的臨近，盡管我早已預知，但我仍然無法控制跳動的心，我甚至還在想是否應該和你談一次話。雖然我深知你會接受我真誠的贊美但你在場時我還是會有點緊張，更甭提告訴對你已形成的印象的勇氣。

必要交流技巧的缺乏令我頗感難受。事實上，在一個考慮周到的人找我談話乊前，我還未主動與他按照一周前的計劃，我打算與你談三件事。聊過。但是現在由于心的好奇，我也不由自主的隨他所欲，無法控制。

第一件事也許很有意思：如果有人在講座的高潮部分鼓掌，你會怎樣想并說些什么呢？我能否得到確切的答案無關緊要，我只是想要你知道確實存在這樣我想鼓掌的場合。也許因為被某個特定的品格深深觸動了。但多數時候我總是沒有緣由的保持沉默。如果有錯誤的話，第二件事是我道歉的最佳。正式將要到來的四級考試。很顯然，你慣常的體貼和關愛應當謹慎對待，而不是不考慮你的境況和別的感受地付諸一笑。畢竟，知道有人關心自己是件快樂的事。這將激發他（她）實現自己盼望已久的夢想。如果沒有溫馨的話縈繞，當提及空白的心時似乎少了一些重要的東西。至少我這樣認為。最后聽后感作為第三件吧！一方面請允許我對你所講的一些例子中的細節提出疑問。然而，它們是真是假無關緊要。因為它們已被寄予了樂趣和意義，對于教學來說，我想那已足夠了。坦誠的說，我更喜歡那些例子，并不在意其來源。正是你使的課堂上的氣氛如此活躍；另一方面我能從你的講座中得到信心，但同時也會感到受挫。和你課堂提到的有影響力的人相比，盡管你以他們為榮，我逐漸感到了未來的渺茫，僅僅因為沒有一些有用的指導。因此我寫了這些希望能夠與你保持聯系。否則，對于我來說，將是命運安排的損失。正如你在第一堂課上所言：多年休來相見緣。

在你乊前，我還沒了解到一個有如此多的專業知識和豐富經驗的人。我們若早點相識就好了。但現在的生活已很好：畢竟，好運實現了我長久以來尋找人們內在特定品質的愿望。你看起來比實際年齡年輕，并總保持清醒的頭腦。總乊，對你印象良好，看到你很高興。漫筆隨談，我自己也不知道寫了些什么，也許會很明白即使僅一瞥。

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It is great honor to have been with you for almost one year.During those times we have spent together in the class, I have got not only contentment for the soul but also attitude toward life.There are no other good sentences than “someone takes a hand, opens a mind, touches a heart and shapes a future”to describe the fine qualities you hold as the certain position.When thinking of the first time I attended your lecture, I indeed felt delighted upon a new teacher.After all, as with the course itself, it is a theoretical course as well as a required one.A good sir will surely make his audience concentrated on what he intends to convey by using various methods, rather than tell the designed content of the book without any attractive or useful experience from real life.When comparing those two types of teachers, I like the former one much more.To tell the truth, it was exactly after the second class that I came to appreciate your style of teaching with kind voice and considerate heart.Being kind of humorous, you have passed your message in such a special way as we all can accept.But when it comes to the potential international issues, it appears hard to imagine what will happen without professional knowledge in mind.For example, as we all know, China possesses the largest part in population of the world;on the one hand, it makes the numerous resources to every single individual much less than that of any other country, which seems to promise not so good a phenomenon.But on the other hand, the largest part in population can otherwise fortify its citizen’s glory as well as confidence.Just as a father living in the rural area takes pride in the number of his son.All those are realistic facts.What would it be like if there is a nation whose population is expected larger or at least as much as ours’in the world near the future ? Will we sense the pressure from the respect of population? Surely it is a profound question.As I do not care much about those things, I only can realize its pressure with a superficial mind.Besides the reputation of being respectable and learned, a bold interval between eyebrows is quite impressive.It is just the symbol of insight and humanity.I do not learn much about your extra work, but it is an obvious fact that everyone has his or her talent in certain field which he or she takes interest in, and there is

no exception for others working in other careers.Plain as they all are, they have the qualities of encouraging others and being patient.But now I am wondering whether those qualities make them what they are or the other way around.As a sentence reveals: The qualities most of us value above all others are honesty, courage, persistence, generosity and humility, we are not born with those things, instead we develop them.Though it is just about initiative and passivity, I think it does count for much.To some extent, I have no intention to write those feelings, much less the right to disturb other’s normal life with them, but it seems much easier to flow those feelings with a pen than to talk with you directly.I do not want to make further explanation of why, perhaps I can not make it at all.What I actually want to do is respect you with fear.Although I know that making someone feel that he is hard to communicate with is impolite, I still can not take up courage to talk with you.But when given a second thought, it is reasonable that one will feel delighted when he knows that he is held admirable.With no other intention writing those, I just want to share some encouragement and useful guidance in spirits with another him, at most express what I think in my mind.As a matter of fact, it is not necessary for me to think too much, just right we will be afraid of taking even a glass of water if we pay too much attention to the sources of disease.Just behave as what I think is appropriate.As a proverb goes: Go your own road, and let others say.Job is all about work, while life is what we have to take into account even during the work.Only by this way can one enjoy a successful career as well as a harmonious FAMILY life.If the paper were of function in recording your expressions which would soon be sent back when you are reading, that would be fairly good.No special meaning;just say“cheese”with a causal mind.Sorry to take up some of your time.Yours sincerely，Li Anling

The advantages of using the third person: There seems to be no direct relationship in the essay between the writer and addressee, thus fading that special relationship, and there also seems to be less respect, thus making it close but not to be extreme.Happiness in my mind

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From my standpoint, happiness is a special feeling which comes from the bottom of heart for a certain reason.It is just a kind of state existing between the materialistic world and the spiritual world.Surely it is more a process than an outcome.It is exactly the process of pursuing the dream we desire for that makes it much more precious for our soul, which would otherwise remain plain as a tranquil lake, dull without any ripple.When it comes to happiness, some conceive that material is a necessity.But I am inclined to that certain material only can meet one’s demand to some extent, or rather it is just an extra one.As is widely acknowledged: a millionaire may encounter frustrating occasions in his life;while a beggar can gain happiness over his lunch food.Common as it is, it is food not only for the mouth but also for the soul, and it is best bestowal for the beggar to meet his need.Happiness, as everyone desires for, is a natural feeling that can be come across by luck, but seldom be pursued with some purpose.That is to say, happiness just takes its own course without considering one’s subjective will.But it does not appear so bad an incident for our human beings;at least, we can imagine some wonderful situations by adding our own feeling to them.Actually, it matters little whether this way will work or not, for it is just an approach to make one feel delighted.There are various ways to gain happiness if we like and keep up a positive attitude.It does not matter where you come from and what you will be.All you need to do is to find the potential happiness with your sensitive eyes.For example, we can obtain happiness from the scene when we are sitting around the table and enjoying a big meal together with our family members;we can acquire happiness by helping a blind man cross the bustling street;we also can get happy from the time when we are accompanied by the one we love.All in all, happiness is all around our daily life, it depends on your capacity to discover it.Happiness is to human beings what sunshine is to flowers.The flowers become more beautiful with gentle sunshine on.As with our human beings, our life would have been meaningless if there were not happiness existing as an emotional style.After all, happiness has played a crucial role in strengthening the relationship among people.In a nutshell, happiness has highlighted our life in different ways.To be in the elder’s company is like reading thick book of deluxe edition that fascinates one so much as to be reluctant to part with;to come across an old friend is like tasting a fragrant wine that includes colorful memories of the old days;to be in a subtle longing to someone is like enjoying a silent drama that covers various sides of life;to receive a humane look is like showering in gentle sunshine that will warm heart deeply;to be in the smile of the kind eyes is like walking in breeze wind that will encourage one strongly.All of those are indispensable elements forming the happiness.As we can see from the above, they are just casual daily life that can happen even beyond your expectation.It is your effort that really matters if you want to go along with it.To conclude, whatever else happiness may be, it is neither in having nor in being, but in becoming through your own effort to overcome difficulties in your life.Only by this way can one enjoy a successful career as well as a harmonious “FAMILY” life, and then true happiness will be surely in his mind.母愛—縈繞心頭的一縷陽光

題記：在眾多的愛別之中，我最喜歡母親的愛

每當憶起母親，總會有一種莫名的感覺漫不經心地爬上心頭，些許的留戀，些許的思念，但更多的是對她深沉的愛的感激。正是母親那份無所索取﹑默默奉獻的愛是我在成長的道路上得以順利行進。在生活中，它不僅給了我在逆境中戰勝困難的勇氣，而且使我明白了事在人為的道理。

在日常的家庭生活中，母親是個精準的時間打理者。她總會在適當的時機把兒女及家人的所需準備妥當，尤其是在天氣突然轉變這方面，母親的感知能力絕不遜色于天氣預報的科學預測。即使有時倔強的我們會極力反對母親的建議，體貼的她仍然會在我們最需要她的時候及時出現，無論刮風下雨，酷暑嚴寒。相對于我們有意或無意的冷漠的拒絕母親關心的自私心理，母親那孜孜不倦的愛顯得多么高尚啊﹗家中的一切在母親那勤勞而智慧的雙手下各就各位，而家庭了的其他成員則盡情享受著一切各司其職的特權。無需多問，你曾經落在荒郊野外的玩具小車仍藏匿于你經常光顧的“車庫”里；你用了n年之久的挎包已悄然變成了你盼望已久的背包了；你昨天剛換洗的襯衣正煥然一新的酣睡于衣柜。在生活中，母親就是這樣一個關懷無微不至、體貼無處不在的銳利形象。井井有條的室內布置，周到熱情的服務是母親在這個平凡的家庭中所承擔的最基本的任務，而她卻做出了令人驕傲的業績。畢竟，我們現在都已長大成人，并且擁有母愛所傳遞的做人準則。

在日常的開支方面，母親又是一個出色的錢財管理者，她小心謹慎的進行著每天的柴、米、油、鹽的預算。也許財務的數目并不可觀，但母親總是以一種滿足的心態毫無怨言地繼續著那份自已嫻熟的職業。或許是習慣了的緣故，母親在生活開支方面的管理能力，在

某種程度上可以和當代的財務工作者相匹敵。只是少了些巨額錢財的管理而已，但卻多了一份精打細算。小到每頓飯的支出，大至家電器材的購置，母親無不發揮著她超強的預算能力。每當遭遇家中經濟短缺的時候，母親總能從前期的工作經驗中總結出應對的措施：或者是上個月的預留款，或者是親戚朋友的舶來品，這些總能幫助家人度過困難時期，并迎來新的希望。其中，母親自如的應對發揮著無可替代的作用。小時候，總以為母親是個苛刻的形象，我盼望已久的一頂帽子直到下雪的前夕才溫暖到我的心頭，看到有些委屈的我，母親也流露出了淡淡的無奈。生活畢竟如此，誠然我應該感謝那時的生活，正是其時的那些人和事成就了母愛中最輝煌的人性之美，而作為生活經營者的母親更值得謳歌。

母親的文化程度度并不高，但和同時代的人相比，母親卻是幸運的。小學四年級沒畢業的她，迫于無奈，只得留在家中。但她從未有過半點怨言。有時她竟在我們面前夸耀自已在上學時取得的優異成績，雖然那些成績在現在看來并不顯著，但母親仍然樂此不疲，頗像天真的孩童一樣，留戀著充滿歡樂的童年趣事。母親熟諳教育的重要性。作為一個受教育程度不高的母親，她從未放松過對我們學習的管理。她常常鼓勵我們努力學習，因為只有這樣才能走出農村，去城市打拼另一片新天地。當時母親的思想開放程度實在令她的同齡人吃驚。當別人都在忙于田間勞作的時候，母親卻不忘監督我們的學習，生怕我們在學習上會落后于他人。能夠有一個思想如此超前的母親，實在是值得驕傲的事。

母親是樂觀的。面對生活中不行的遭遇時，或許是飽經風霜的緣故，母親顯得分外坦然，無所畏懼。而勇敢接受現實的挑戰是她多年來從實踐中總結出來的殺手锏。一直以來，母親秉乘方法比問題多的解決方針，當遇到相當棘手的問題時，從多個角度全面分析，以尋求解決問題的最佳途徑。這樣一來，母親便能權衡大局利弊，從中選擇最佳方法。在這方面，母親既擁有分析問題的素材，又有自主抉擇的權利，其權威性絕不亞于一個專業的政府官員。事實上，這些豐富的素材和應有的權利進一步充實了母親樂觀的性格，當然對我們的成長也起到了一定的指導作用。

現今處于花甲之年的母親，仍然在辛勤的經營著那份屬于自已的工作，怡然自得。由于相距甚遠，我與母親相聚的機會自然也就少了很多，而我對她的思念卻與日俱增，越來越強烈。孤獨寂寞的時候，會想起母親講述故事的溫馨場景；面對困難時，母親鼓勵的話語會時常縈繞在耳畔；失望傷感時，憶起母親的樂觀會給我重新振作起來的勇氣。然而，時光荏苒，歲月無情，一并在她曾經瀟灑飄逸的黑發間種下了絲絲白發，在那一度嬌艷的容顏上留下了深深的皺紋，同時也留下了根本就無法帶走的那份對兒女及家人默默付出的執著。那些雖然一縱即逝卻濕潤我雙眸的份份感念，那些縱然久遠亦不能淡忘的闕闕故事都會在心中漸漸累積，漸漸沉淤成最凝重、最美麗、最雋永的回憶，任歲月侵蝕，心境變遷，它卻歷久彌新，永葆著那份獨特而清雅的余韻，散發著怡人芬芳。

在成長的道路上，是母親輕挽著我們的小手，給我們以前進的動力；在心智成熟的過程中，是母親用金鑰匙為我們打開了通往智慧的大門，使我們領悟到心靈深處那種伊始的觸動；在成功的旅途中，是母親獨具前瞻性的見解為我們塑造了一個美好而燦爛的未來。

因此，在眾多的愛別之中，我最喜歡母親的愛，不止為那平凡的偉大，也不止為那無言的深沉，更為了那不經意間的一個噴嚏對心靈的觸動與震顫。值此母親節來臨之際，讓我們重溫FAMILY的舊夢，拾掇母愛的的點點滴滴，共同將其珍藏于心靈的伊甸園，共同祝愿所有為人母的女性健康快樂、永遠幸福。

﹡FAMILY一層意思為Father And Mother I Love You, 也為其意本身：家庭。

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I am glad to write something to you to show my gratitude.With no other intention in mind, I mainly want to keep in touch with you.After all, this is the last P.E.class that is assigned to our sophomore students.Some wonderful memories are worth recalling anyway.I do not regret choosing your class at all;instead, I feel much honored to have been with you during the class and learned something extra as well.As a matter of fact, I did not attend any formal physical education before I come to college.The only informal one that I attended was assigned to our class in 2003.Strict as the teacher was, he scolded students who did not do as he taught to with a loud voice, and he even hit them hard.His “unique”style really impressed me deeply.Yet, thinking of his stiff face, I will still be quivering with fear.I had thought we would have more access to physical education before I went to senior high middle school.To my disappointment, due to the fierce competition pressure from among schools, the school government did not considering arranging that sort of class at all.Their main concern was the number of high scores.Therefore, under that circumstance, my interest in physical education had faded, only leaving an unconscious conception of outdoor activity.This is why I did not like physical education class until your appearance.As with another three P.E.teachers in university, they are also good with their own character, but it is just you that make me have some passion for the class.Good fortune just brought you to be my last semester P.E.teacher without any notice in advance.Believe it or not, before the activity of selecting course, I had intended to play softball.But as it turned out the course of softball had conflict with my other required courses.With so many courses around, I really had no idea of what to choose and whose course to take.Finally，I selected health care with curiosity and memorized the name of the teacher and the number of the classroom at random.It can not be denied that the unintentionally meeting is that fate has designed for each other intentionally.This is exactly what you call as luck.Approachable as you, you seldom get angry in our class, I reckon it is the sufficient patience that enable s you to keep a positive attitude when it comes to teaching students.But as yourself, you only keep disappointment in your own heart and just show subtle helplessness

through your eyes.Being the person in your favorite job, I think you will not have any difficulty while coping with that sort of mental effect.The most impressive character is the way you tell your life experience when we are taking a break.With kind voice and a multivariate（多變的）facial expression, you make the classroom filled with laughter when you refer to something interesting.After entering college, I find a fact that there are few teachers smoking in public, but the number of smoking students takes up a large proportion.What is worse, some students should smoke in the dormitory.Bad phenomenon as it may be, it can not be eliminated.My attitude toward smoking varies from season to season.Smoking in winter can create a relatively warm atmosphere;while smoking in summer in the public place can disturb others psychologically and leave an ungraceful image on others.As far as I am concerned, smoking itself will not do any good to our health.Here just talk about my attitude to smoking, no suggestion for you.After all, it is none of my business.(Indeed this comment is not responsible at all.)in other people’view, we are just passerby to each other in life, but as for me, I have experienced an unforgettable experience.Special as you are, you show a peaceful mentality and no hauteur at all.I learned that the quality of a person will match his or her title to a large extent;the position one hold indeed can reflect his or her capability.It is none of others but your heart that makes a real you presenting in our class.Ok, just end here and contact later.If the paper were of function in recording your expressions which would soon be sent back when you are reading, that would be fairly good.No special meaning;just say“cheese”with a causal mind.Sorry to take up some of your time.Yours sincerely，Li Anling

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Having been away from writing English composition for almost three month, now I find it difficulty to start, only leaving a blink mind wandering.Indeed, I do not have any certain feeling after Band-4, what I actually have is subtle luck.As I did not take this Band-4 seriously before its coming, sometimes I even escaped the compulsory course of English course, thinking that I had enough confidence in passing it, and all of those led to my failure in finish the Band-4 test paper.After the exam, though I knew in my deep heart that I could pass it anyway, I felt kind of shameful in my former teachers’presence.To make matters worse, I even told him that I did not want to the class without any formal excuse, but he should accept my request and advise me to memorize some sample composition of Band-4.Whether his advice was taken seriously was not of importance.It is the fact that I had got something(like advice)from him beyond my expectation that delighted me most.To my contentment, after a long time waiting, I finally got my score of Band-4.It is an excellent one, at least I think it like this in my mind, perhaps just as I had expected before the answers to it came.While contacting with him, he made no remark but sincere compliment on it.I had intended to get some advice from him with scores of every part, but I had not received it yet, perhaps he did not care for it at all, or it was my fault that I failed to use a directly way to chat with him.Actually, I have little sense of the relationship between teacher and student.Though I have told myself many times not to be shy while coping with the relationship, I do not manage it just because I attach too much traditional factors to it.As a matter of fact, there is no need for me to feel embarrassed.As a test throughout the whole nation, the Band-4 exam has taken on fair as well as authoritative.Given the fact that different areas have diverse level of language, its difficulty in paper has to be strictly considered.In terms of myself, I find it easy to pass it, but only one o my roommates passed it with a satisfactory score.To my surprise, our dormitory was not the worst one, which was really a confusing thing.As for my roommates, every one had his own goal, but they all expected to pass it after painful work.Unfortunately, good luck turned against them;perhaps they did not find a proper way while learning English.Now looking back on the old days we had spent together, I find that not everyone’s hard work is paid off.In my opinion, what really matters in the situation is one’s attitude and way of study.First of all, in order to learn English well, one can make a plan for his

study, in which case he can go on his work regularly.Second one must have persistent effort to fight to the end.Last but not the least important, one can find a soul mate who can offer useful guidance so that he can go through this relatively lonely period.This is a really useful suggestion.As we all know, long-lasting learning is monotonous and it is usually inevitable for us to encounter unexpected difficulties.But if we have a soul mate who can offer the shoulder to us to rest our exhausted head, we will get encouraged so that we can refresh ourselves from ever frustration and gain confidence in advancing against difficulty.To be frank, thanks to one of my sincere soul mates, I have passed this test without any extra hurting in both physical condition and mind.If memory serves me correctly, I did come across some puzzling problems and it is exactly my soul mate that helped me out of those hard times.In a nutshell, one’s soul mate really plays an important role in his journey to success.Writing aimlessly, I myself even can not figure out what I have already written.There do some truths as well as off-truths exist in the composition.SB PV WYCM

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When I came across such a title in a book of Chinese version, I felt it necessary for me to write something of my own to illustrate my viewpoint.Here just write in English in case of accuracy explanation.As a matter of fact, I am for the viewpoint, but in everyday life I am experiencing, I always try to avoid being helped or accept any kind of offer from others by instinct, even though I know for myself that they will feel sort of embarrassed.I am just reluctant to ask for help for fear of owing them something.Actually, this situation can not be all to blame for me, and the growing atmosphere in my previous years has already separated me from a pretty large group.Besides, we are of different channel just as a TV set can broadcast diverse programs, which do not have direct connection.Perhaps we have no universal language at all.In a word, I have been out of date for that special relationship.I can sense the hurt of being deserted for my indifference to the help from others.In reality, human resource has taken up a large proportion in our society when it comes to accomplishing a certain work.Without proper human resource, you even can not finish one task completely.While as for me, I would rather take trouble to do things in myself than ask for a hand for others.I seldom take any junk food from my roommates and friends, not that I do not like to eat them.Gradually, my bad manners hurt many persons around;though declining others is not my initial motivation.The impression I left upon others shows that I was a man with who is hard to get along.As a result, I have fades out of the mortal society in a way.A person is surely not of his own world.When I had some achievements, I suddenly found that there is nit anyone else to congratulate on my luck, and share happiness with me.Eying around, I even could not find a stranger passing by.I felt extremely sorrowful, and a sense of unprecedented loneliness covered all my heart.As a consequence, I reckoned it is not essential for me to stick to fighting anyway.No meaning at all if there was not any

encouragement existing.The author of the essay explains as this: someone just there for being used;you can not decline an offer with no excuse at all.If someone needs a help, you should probably offer one on condition that you can help it.Otherwise, how the relationship between people can be strengthened?

It suddenly occurs to me that no one would like to become friends with one who hold no interest in others help.So I try to change within my ability.I try to accept others help with a good grace;if there is no one would like to help, I will find someone to offer some advice initiatively.Only by owing something to others can I get some human smell on me.In our life, someone indeed just is there for being used.It is not the someone that plays a key role in the process, but a you with some initiative character that matters.☆The happiest people do not necessarily have the best of everything;they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.Maybe god wants us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one so that when we finally meet the right person, we will know how to be grateful for that gift.When the door of happiness closes, another opens, but we often look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.The best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a porch and swing with, never say a word, and then walk away feeling that it was the best conversation you ever had.It is true that we do not know what we have got until we lose it, but it is also true that we do not know what we have bee n missing until it arrives.Giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they will love back!Do not expect love in return;just wail for it to grow in their heart but if it does not, be content it grew in yours.It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone, but it probably takes a lifetime to forget someone.Do not go for looks, they can deceive.Do not go for wealth, even that fades away.Go for someone who makes you smile because it only takes a smile to wake a day seem bright.Find the one that make your heart smile.There are moments in life when you miss someone so much that you just want to pick them from your dreams and hug them for real!Dream what you want to dream;go where you want to go;be what you want to be, because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you want to do.May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human, enough hope to make you happy.Always put yourself in others’ shoes.If you feel that it hurts you, it probably hurts the other person, too.The happiest people do not necessary have the best if everything;they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.and those who have tried, for only they can appreciate the importance of people who have touched their lives.Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss, and ended with a tear.The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past, you can not go on well in life until you let go of your failures and headaches.When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling.Live your life so that when you die, you are the one who is smiling and everyone around you was smiling.Please send this message to those people who mean something to you, to have touches your life in one way or another, to those who make you smile when you really need it, to those that make you see the brighter sides of thing s when you are really down, to those who you want them know that you appreciate their friendship.And if you do not, do not worry, nothing bad will happen to you, you will just miss out the opportunity to brighten someone’s day with this message.☆ 最幸福的人未必擁有全部最好的東西，他們只是能最大程度地利用生活所賦予的一切。

也許，上帝希望我們在遇到適合自己的人之前，總會遇到一些不適合自己的人，這樣，在最終找到適合自己的人的時候，我們就會心存感激，并將其看做天賜福祉。

當一扇幸福之門關閉的時候，另一扇幸福之門就會打開，但是，我們往往長久的凝望著那扇已經關上的門，而沒有看見那扇已經打開的門。

如果有一個人與你心情愉快的坐在門廊里，然后沒說一句話就走了，但當他離開后，你卻感覺你們之間仿佛有過平生最美妙的交談，那么這個人就是你最好的朋友。

凡事都是失去以后才知道珍惜；同樣地，不曾擁有，也就不知有所缺憾。

愛別人并不意味著一定得到對方的愛！不要期待愛的報答，要期待愛在對方心中的滋長，如果沒有實現的話，那就讓愛常駐你心吧！對一個人產生好感只需要一分鐘，喜歡上一個人需要一個小時，愛上一個人需要一天，而忘記一個人卻需要漫長的一生。

不要追求容貌，那是騙人的。別去追逐財富，那最終會煙消云散。去尋找那些能使你綻放笑容的人吧！因為只有歡笑才能給黑暗的日子帶來光明。找一個能博你開心一笑的人吧！

在我們的生命中，有時你是如此的思念一個人以至于你希望他們能從夢境中跳出來，帶讓你實實在在地去擁抱。

夢你想夢之夢，去你想去之地，做你想做之人吧！因為你只有一次生命和一次機會去做自己想做的事情。

愿你：因擁有幸福而可愛，因經歷考驗而堅強，因體驗悲哀而善良，因懷抱希望而幸福。

設身處地為別人著想。如果你覺得受到了傷害，對方恐怕也覺得如此。

最幸福的人未必擁有全部最好的東西，他們只是能夠最大程度的利用生活所賦予的一切。

幸福親睞那些哭過、傷過、追尋過并且努力過的人們，因為只有他們才懂得珍惜曾經影響過自己生命的人。

愛以笑開始，以吻而深厚，卻以淚收場。最光明的未來往往建立在忘記過去的基礎上，只有當你讓過去的失敗與傷痛隨風而逝時，才能更好的生活下去。

當你出生的時候，你不停的哭泣，而周圍的人都在笑。好好的度過你的一生，這樣當你死去時，你可以面帶微笑，盡管周圍的人在為你哭泣。

請將本文傳遞給那些對你來說很重要的人，那些以這樣或那樣的方式影響你生活的人，那些在你需要時帶給你歡笑的人，那些在你失落時讓你看到光明的人，那些你渴望結交并成為摯友的人。如果你還沒有這樣做，也不用擔心，在你的身上不會發生任何糟糕的事情，你只是錯過了用這篇美文讓別人的日子變得更美好的機會。

1．Swing 搖動，搖擺 2．Sorrow 悲傷，憂傷 3．Assurance 確定，確保 4．Trial 試驗，測試 5．Deceive 欺騙

Not Just a Mom

★ Being a mom is the greatest of all sorts of joys.A woman named Emily renewing her driver‵s license at the County Clerk office was asked by the woman recorder to state her occupation.She hesitated, uncertain how to classify herself.“What I mean is,”explained the recorder, “Do you have a job, or you just a …” “Of course I have a job,”snapped Emily.“I am a mother.”

“We do not list mother as an occupation…housewife covers it”said the recorder emphatically.I forgot all about her story until one day I found myself in the same situation, this time at our own Town Hall.The clerk was obviously a career woman, poised, efficient, and possessed of a high sounding title like,“Official Interrogator” or “Town Registrar.” “What is your occupation? she probed.What made me say it, I do not know.The words simply popped out.“I am a research associate in the field of child development and human relations.” he clerk posed, ballpoint pen frozen in midair, and looked up as though she had not heard right.I repeated the title slowly, emphasizing the most significant words.Then I stared with wonder as my pronouncement was written in bold, black ink on the official questionnaire.“Might I ask,”said the clerk with new interest,“just what do you do in your field? ”

Coolly, without any trace of fluster in my voice, I heard myself replied,“I have a continuing program of research, in the laboratory and in the field.I am working for my master, and already have four credits.Of course, the job is one of the most demanding in the humanities and I often work 14 hours a day.But the job is more challenging than most run-of-the-mill careers and the rewards are more of a satisfaction rather than just money.”

There was an increasing note of respect in the clerk?s voice as she completed the form，stood up, and personally ushered me to the door.As I drive into our driveway, buoyed up by my glamorous new career, I was greeted by my lab assistants—aged 13,7,and 3.Upstairs I could hear out new experimental model, in the child-development program, testing out a new vocal pattern.I felt triumphant!I had scored a beat on bureaucracy!And I had gone on the official records as someone more distinguished and indispensible to mankind than“just another mother”.Motherhood … what a glorious career!Especially when there is a title on the door.Does this make grandmother“Senior Research Associate in the field of Child Development and Human Relation”and great grandmother“Executive Senior Research Associate”? I think so！!

I also think it makes Aunts“Associate Research Assistants”.不僅僅是一位媽媽

★做一名母親是福中之福，了中之樂。

一位名叫艾米麗的婦女到郡辦公室辦理駕照延期時，女登記員問她的職業。她猶豫了，拿不準自己屬于哪一類。

“我的意思是你有沒有工作，或者說你是個……”女登記員解釋道。“我當然有工作，”艾米麗急忙說，“我是一個母親。”

“我們不把?母親?看做職業……你應該填?家庭主婦?，”登記員強調說。

要不是有一天在我們自己的市政廳，在我的身上發生了同樣的事情，那位女士的遭遇幾乎讓我給忘了。那兒得職員是一位職業的女性，舉止穩重、訓練有素，有著類似“官方詢問員”或“鎮登記員”那樣響亮的名頭。“你的職業？”她詢問道。

我為什么會這么說，連我自己都不知道，這句回答簡直就是脫口而出，“我是兒童發展與人類關系研究員”。

那名辦事員頓了一下，圓珠筆停在了半空，她抬起頭來好像沒聽清楚。

我又慢慢的重復了我的職業，并強調了最重要的幾個詞。然后好奇地看著她用粗黑的墨水將我說的話寫在了官方的調查問卷上。

“請問您在哪個領域具體是做什么的？”那名職員饒有興趣的問。

我鎮定自若、毫不慌亂的說：“我在實驗室里或現場從事持續性的項目研究。我為獲得學位而努力工作，并且以獲得四學分。當然，這項工作是人文學科中要求最高的，我通常一天工作14個小時。然而，這項工作比許多普通工作更具有挑戰性，而且我所得到的回報與其說是金錢不如說是一種滿足感。”

那名辦事員填完了表格，話里也多了些敬意，她起身親自把我送到門口。

那響亮的新頭銜使我飄飄然起來。車開到家門前的車道上，我的實驗室助理出來迎接我，他們分別是13歲、7歲和3歲。樓上，兒童發展項目的新實驗對象正在測試一種新的發音模式。

我深感得意。我給了當局有利一擊！我，被看作一位從事著對人類來說比“僅作母親”更不可缺少的、更重要的職業的人被登記在官方檔案上。

母親--多么光榮的職業！特別是當它已經有一個官方稱謂的時候。

那么，是否祖母就是“兒童發展與人類關系資深研究員”，曾祖母是“高級研究員”？我想，那是確定無疑的！！

我想姑姑、嬸嬸、姨媽、舅媽等也可稱為“助理研究員”。

I hope

★Happiness is goodness.But how? Grandpa knew more here.We tried hard to make things better for our kids that we made them worse.For my grandchild, I would know better.I would really like for them to know hand-me-down clothes and home-made ice cream and left-over meatloaf.I really would.My cherished grandson, I hope you learn humility by surviving failure and that you learn to be honest when no one is looking.I hope you learn to make your bed and mow the lawn and wash the car—and I hope nobody gives you brand-new car when you are sixteen.It will be good if at least one time you can see a baby calf born, and you have a good friend to be with you if you ever have to put your old dog to sleep.I hope you get a black eye fighting for something you believe in.I hope you have to share a bedroom with you younger brother.And it is all right to draw a line down the middle of the room, but when he wants to crawl under the covers with you because he is scared, I hope you will let him.And when you want to see a Disney movie and your kid brother wants to tag along, I hope you take him.I hope you have to walk uphill with your friends and that you live in a town where you can do it safely.If you want a slingshot, I hope your father teach you how to make one instead of buying one.I hope you learn to dig in the dirt and read books, and when you learn to use computers, you also learn how to add and subtract in your head.I hope you get razzed by friends when you have your first crush in a girl, and that you when you talk back your mother you learn what Ivory soap tastes like.May you skin your knee climbing a mountain, burn your hand on the stove and stick your tongue on a frozen flagpole.I hope you get sick when someone blows smoke in your face.I do not care if you try beer once, but I hope you will not like it.And if a friend offers you a joint or any drugs, I hope you are smart enough to realize that person is not your friend.I sure hope you make time to sit on a porch with your grandpa or go fishing with your uncle.I hope your mother will punishes you when you throw a baseball through a neighbor?s window, and that she hugs you and kisses you when you give her a plaster of pared mold of your hand.Those things I wish for you--tough times and disappointment, hard work and happiness.希望

1.幸福本是仁慈。怎樣獲得幸福，爺爺知道的更多。

我們辛辛苦苦的努力，想讓孩子們過上更好的生活，可結果卻適得其反。我知道什么才是對子孫們有益的。

我想讓他們知道什么是上一輩傳下來的衣服，什么是自制冰激凌，什么是吃剩的肉塊。我一定會那樣做。

我的寶貝孫子啊，我希望你能經歷失敗，并從中學會謙虛，而且在沒人看見的情況下你也能做到誠實。

我希望你學著自己鋪床、疊被、剪草和洗車。同時，我還希望沒人會在你16歲時就送你新車。

如果你能看到小牛犢出生，哪怕一次也好；當你不得不幫一只老狗解脫時，我希望能有好友與你相伴。

我希望你能為自己的信念而奮斗，哪怕結果是鼻青臉腫。

我希望你能和弟弟睡在一個屋里，在臥室里劃分一條分界線也沒關系，可是，當他害怕的想躲進你的被窩時，我希望你能讓他如愿。

我希望當地地纏著想和你一起去迪士尼看電影時，你能爽快的帶上他。

我希望你能跟朋友一起去登山，而且我希望你能住一個小鎮中，在那里你們可以安全的進行這類活動。

我希望當你想玩彈弓時，你父親能教你做一個，而不是去買。我希望但你學著在土里挖土的時候，也能學著讀書；當你學著使用電腦的時候，也能學著用心算來加減乘除。

我希望當你第一次對女孩有好感的時候，你會被朋友們的起哄弄得面紅耳赤，而當你和媽媽頂嘴的時候，你會領教象牙肥皂的滋味。

我希望你登山時膝蓋擦破點皮烤火是爐子灼一下你的手舔旗桿時冰冷的旗桿粘一

下你的舌頭。

我希望當別人抽煙的時候你會覺得反感。我不在乎你偶爾喝點啤酒，但是我希望你不會喜歡上它。還有。當朋友給你一些大麻煙或毒品時，我希望你能夠擁有一雙火眼金睛，看清她不是你真正的朋友。

我當然希望你能夠抽出時間陪爺爺聊天或者跟叔叔釣魚。

我希望當你將棒球投進鄰居的窗戶時，你母親會懲罰你；然而，當你將自己的手模送給她時，她會擁抱并親吻你。

我希望上天能賜予你—艱難和失望，拼搏和幸福。

On Meeting the Celebrated

I have always wondered at the passion many people have to meet the celebrated.The prestige you acquire by being able to tell your friends that you know men proves only that you are yourself of small account.The celebrated develop a technology to deal with persons they come across, they show the world a mask, often an impressive one, but take care to conceal their real selves.They play the part that is expected from them, and with practice they learn to play it very well, but you are stupid enough if you think that this public performance of theirs corresponds with the man within.I have been attached, deeply attached, to a few people;but I have been interested in men in general not for their own sakes, but for the sake of my work.I have not, as Kant enjoined, regarded each man as an end in himself, but as a material that might be useful to me as a writer.I have been more concerned with the obscure than with the famous.They are more of themselves.They have had no need to create a figure to protect themselves from the world or to impress it.Their idiosyncrasies have had more chance to develop in the limited circle of their activity, and since they have never in the public eye it has never occurred to them that they have anything to conceal.They display their oddities because it has never struck them that they are odd.And after all it is with the common run of men we writer have to deal;kings, dictators, commercial magnates are from our point of view very unsatisfactory.To writer about them is a venture that has often tempted writers, but the failure that has attended their efforts shows that such beings are too exceptional to form a proper ground for a work of art.They can not be made real.The ordinary is the writer?s richer field.Its unexpectedness, its singularity, its infinite variety afford unending material.The great man is too often all of a piece;it is the little man that is a bundle of contradictory elements.He is inexhaustible.You never come to the end of the surprises he has in store for you.For my part I would much sooner spend a month on desert island with a veterinary surgeon than with a prime minister.1.magnates

大資本家，巨頭，富豪，要人 2.singularity

單一，異常，奇異，奇妙，稀有 3.inexhaustible 無窮無盡的

4.veterinary 獸醫

與名人見面

我總想弄明白為什么許多人熱衷于見名人。告訴朋友你認識某個名人，由此而來的聲望只能證明你自己微不足道。

名人個個練就了一套處事高招，無論遇上誰，都能應對自如。他們給世人展現的是一副面具，常常是美好而難忘的面具，但他們會小心翼翼的遮蓋自己的真相。他們扮演的是大家期待的角色，演得多了，最后都能演的惟妙惟肖。如果你認為他們在公眾面前的表演就是他們真實的自我，那你就太傻了。

我自己就喜歡一些人，非常喜歡他們。但一般來說，我對人感興趣不是因為他們自身的緣故，而是出于我的工作需要。正如康的勸告的那樣，我從來沒把認識某人當作目的，而是將其當作對一個作家有用的素材。比之名流之士，我更加關注無名小卒。他們常常顯得較為自然真實，他們無需再創造另一個人物形象，用它來保護自已不收拾人干擾，或者用它去感動世人。他們的社交圈子有限，自己的種種癖性也就越有可能滋長，因為他們從沒引起公眾的關注，也就從來沒有想到過要隱瞞什么。他們會表露他們古怪的一面，因為他們從來沒有覺得有任何古怪。總之作家要寫的是普通人。在我們看來，國王、獨裁者和商界大亨等都是不符合條件的。

去撰寫這些人物經常是作家難以抗拒的冒險之舉，可為此付出的努力不免以失敗告終，這說明這些人物過于特殊，無法成為一件藝術作品的創作根基，作家也不可能把他們寫的真真切切。老百姓才是作家創作的沃土，他們或變化無常，或難覓其二，各式人物應有盡有，這些都給作家提供了無限的創作素材。大人物經常是千人一面，小人物身上才有一組組矛盾元素，是取之不盡的創作源泉，讓你驚喜不斷。就我而言，如果在孤島上度過一個月，我寧愿和一名獸醫相守，也不愿統一為首相做伴。

The important things in life

Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there, to serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson, or to help you figure out who you are or what you want to become.You never know who these people may be—a roommate, a neighbor, a professor, a friend, a lover or even a complete stranger—but when you lock your eyes with them, you know at that very moment they will affect your life in some profound way.Sometimes things happen to you that may seem horrible, painful, and unfair at first, but in reflection you find that without overcoming those obstacles you would have never realized your potential, strength, willpower, or heart.Illness, injury, love, lost moments of true greatness, and sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of your soul.Without those small tests, whatever they may be, life would be like a smoothly paved straight flat road to nowhere.It would be safe and comfortable, but dull and utterly pointless.The people you meet who affect your life, and the success and downfalls you experience, help to create who you are and who you become.Even the bad experiences can be learned from.In fact, they are sometimes the most important ones.If someone love you, give love back to them in whatever way you can, not only because they love you, but because in a way, they are teaching you to love and how to open your heart and eyes to things.If someone hurts you, betrays you, or break your heart, forgive them, for they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to whom you open your heart.Make every day count.Appreciate every moment and take from those moments everything that you possibly can for you may never be able to experience it again.Talk to people that you have never talked to before, and listen to what they have to say.Let yourself fall in love, break free, and set your sight high.Hold your head up because you have every right to.Tell yourself you are a great individual and believe in yourself, for if you do not believe in yourself, it will be hard for others to believe in you.You can make anything you wish of your life.Create your own life and then go out and live it with absolutely no regrets.And if you love someone, just tell them, for you never know what tomorrow may have in store for you.一生中要緊的事

有時，一旦有人走入你的生命，你就會立刻明白他們本來就在那里，要么達成某種目的，給予你處事的道理；要么幫助你認清你自已；要么幫你實現理想。

你永遠不知道這些人會是誰—一位室友，一位鄰居，一位友人，一位情人或者是位陌生人—然而當你閉上眼睛想起他們時，那一刻，你會明白他們在某些方面深深地影響著你的生活。

有時，發生在你身上的事情首先看起來有點可怕，有點痛苦甚至還有點不公，而你反省之后，你會發現不克服這些障礙，也意識不到自己的潛力、實力、毅力還有心地。

疾病，傷害，愛情，那些逝去的真正偉大的時刻，以及種種愚蠢行為都可以驗證你靈魂的底線。無論這些小小的測驗是什么，沒有它們，生活就像一條平坦的大道，伸向沒有終極的目標。它可能安全舒適，卻枯燥乏味，完全沒有，意義。

在你的人生中，那些你遇見過的影響你生活的人，以及你所經歷的大起大落，都會幫助你創造自己，實現自己。你甚至可以從那些糟糕的經歷中學到東西。實際上，它們有時會成為你人生中最重要的經歷。

如果有人愛你，無論你用何種方式，一定要投桃報李；不僅僅因為他們愛

你，而且因為他們教你怎樣去愛，怎樣敞開你的心扉，開闊你的視野。

如果有人背叛了你，傷害了你，或者傷了你的心，原諒他們，因為他們幫助你學會了信任，學會了對一個人敞開心扉時要謹慎小心。

讓每一天都有價值，珍惜每一時刻，盡可能從那些時光中有所收獲，因為這些經歷你可能不會再重復。和那些你往日沒有講過話的人交流，聽聽他們的心聲。

讓自己陷入愛的渦旋之后從中解脫，然后放遠眼光。你應該昂頭挺胸，對自己充滿信心，因為你有權利這樣做。要從內心告訴自己你是一位了不起的人，并相信自己，如若你自己不相信自己，也很難讓他人來相信你。

你可以按照自己的愿望生活。創造你自己的人生，按照你自己設計的方式毫無遺憾的度過。如果你愛上某個人，就告訴他，因為你永遠不知道明天等待你的是什么。

我們這個時代的尷尬

我們的房屋在擴大，家庭卻在縮小；生活越來越便利，時間卻越來越少；學位證書越拿越多，基本常識卻愈加匱乏；知識越來越豐富，判斷力卻日趨遲鈍；專家越來越多，問題卻也日益增加；藥物越吃越多，健康卻每況愈下。

我們花錢太魯莽，笑容太少，車開得太快，太容易動怒，熬夜太晚，起床時太累，書讀得太少，電視看得太勤，禱告做得太少。

我們不斷斂聚物質財富，卻逐漸丟失了自我價值。我們說的太多，愛的太少，謊言泛濫。我們掌握了謀生手段，卻不懂得生活的真諦；我們不斷的延年益壽，卻沒有為生命注入新的活力。

我們的房子越筑越高，脾氣卻越來越糟；我們行駛的道路越來越寬闊，眼光卻越來越狹隘。我們付出很多，可獲得的很少；我們購買了很多，可從中得到樂趣卻很少。

我們能夠往返于地球和月球之間，卻不愿意穿過馬路向鄰居問好。我們已經征服太空，卻無法與于內心的鴻溝；我們已經讓原子分裂，卻不能突破思想偏見；我們寫的很多，可學到的很少；計劃很多，可完

成的很少。

我們學會了追趕時間，卻沒學會耐心等待；我們擁有的財富越來越多，道德品質卻日益淪喪，我們生產更多的電腦用于儲存更多的信息和制造更多的拷貝，而相互間的交流卻越來越少。我們渴求數量，卻忽視了質量。

這是一個快餐食品與消化遲緩相伴的時代；一個體格高大和性格病態共存的時代；一個追名逐利和人情冷漠相生的時代。我們的休閑多了，樂趣缺少了；食品種類多了，營養缺失了；雙薪家庭增加了，離婚率也激升了；局勢的裝飾華麗了，家庭卻殘缺破碎了。

Glad to chat with you From the first communication between us several days ago, I found that you are a man with kindness and consideration.I do not want to learn much about your background;after all, I have received concrete and all-aspects advice of everyday life, which I did not expect at all when I got you in the list of my“good-friends”.You should chat with me via voice-media, I do not mean that I dislike it here.To be honest, you are the first person that talked with me on the internet via voice-media since I bought the computer.Perhaps it is easier for you to chat through the voice-media than press the keys on the keyboard, as you have copious materials and life experiences, which make you a talkative man.As with myself, I reckon I have more time to think what I will say while pressing the keys, and in this way, too long interval between our talks seems to be avoided.Similarly, I do not think it(by pressing the keys)is good way to communicate either.Though the internet itself is filled with unreality, you have fostered a favorite image in my deep heart.Perhaps you are the leading man that helps me go to the right direction when I am at sea.OK, that is all.Thank you forever!

Yours sincerely

Li Anling

雜論隨談

1.Subtle friendship is true;subtle greetings are enough;subtle love is tender;subtle longing is deep;subtle wishes come from the bottom of my heart.2.I am not sure what it is that keeps me from approaching you to some extent, the wisdom you hold, or the fear in my heart, or some other objective facts.As a matter of fact, I have not meant to put you to so much trouble for the moment.I just want to keep in touch with you and know that it would be nobody else but you when I dial a certain telephone number.Perhaps that is what I have been longing for a long time.At the same time, as with strangers from different backgrounds, I do not expect much consideration from you, though it probably would not take you much time to offer me some necessary help when I actually need it.But on the other hand, all we see about your performance during the class is only the aspect of work, whether it is the real one of another you which I reckon can best reflect your certain quality does not account for much, after all, I have experienced some of your attitude to work and communication.3.Do not Wait till the Flowers out of Bloom

We often trap ourselves in a contradictory situation: we are willing to cherish those beloved or liked around us, but we also find excuse to wait till next day or time for them.However, one day when we are saddened to learn their disappearance, we realize that god do give us time to love, to care, to transplant them into our beautiful memories, but we miss the blossom.4.Two Truths to Live by

The art of living is to know when to hold fast and when to let go.For life is a paradox: it enjoins us to cling to its many gifts even while it ordain their eventual relinquishment.The rabbis of old put it this way: “A man comes to this world with this world with his fist clenched, but when he dies, his hand is open.5.The Difference Between Love and Like In front of the person you love, your heart beats faster, But in front of the person you like, you get happy.In front of the person you love, winter seems like spring

But in front of the person you like, winter is just beautiful winter

If you look into the eyes of the one you love, you blush But if you look into the eyes of the one you like, you smile

In front of the person you love, you can?t say everything on your mind But in front of the person you like, you can

In front of the person you love, you tend to get shy

But in front of the person you like, you can show your own self The person you love comes into your mind every 2 minutes You can?t look straight into the eyes of the one you love But you can always smile into the eyes of the one you like

When the one you love is crying, you cry with them But when the one you like is crying, you end up comforting The feeling of love starts from the eye And the feeling of like starts from the ear

So if you stop liking a person you used to like All you need to do is cover you ears But if you try to close you eyes

Love turns into a teardrop and remains in your heart forever after.6.When Love Beckons You

作者：紀伯倫

You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly.When love beckons you, follow him, though his ways are hard and steep.And when his wings enfold you, yield to him, though the sword hidden among his pinions may wound you.north wind lays waste the garden.For even as love crowns you so shall he crucify you.Even as he is for your growth so is he for your pruning.Even as he ascends to your height and caresses your tenderest branches that quiver in the sun, so shall he descend to your roots and shake them in their clinging to the earth.But if, in your fear, you would seek only love's peace and love's pleasure, then it is better for you that you cover your nakedness and pass out of love's threshing-floor,into the seasonless world where you shall laugh, but not all of your laughter, and weep, but not all of your tears, love gives naughtbut itself and takes naught but from itself, love possesses not, nor would it be possessed, for love is sufficient unto love.Love has no other desire but to fulfill itself.But if you love and have desires, let these be your desires:

To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night.To know the pain of too much understanding of love.And to bleed willingly and joyfully.To wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving;

To rest at the noon hour and meditate love's ecstasy;

To return home at eventide with gratitude;

And then to sleep with a prayer for the beloved in your heart.當愛揮手召喚你時，跟隨著它，盡管它的道路艱難而險峻。當它展翼擁抱你時，依順著它，盡管它羽翼中的利刃會傷害你。當它對你說話時，要相信它，盡管它的聲音會擊碎你的夢，像狂風掃盡花園中的花。

愛雖可為你加冕，也能將你釘上十字架。它雖可助你成長，也能將你削砍剪枝。它會攀至你的高處，輕撫你在陽光下顫動的最柔嫩的枝條，它也會降至你的根底，動搖你緊緊依附著大地的根須。

但是如果你出于畏懼而去尋求愛的和平與愛的歡樂，那你最好掩起自己的赤裸，離開愛的打谷場，踏入那沒有季節的世界，在那里，你會開懷，但不是盡情歡笑，你會哭泣，但不是盡為淚水。愛除了自身別無所予，除了自身也別無所取。愛不占有，也不被占有：因為愛有了自己就足夠了。

愛別無他求，只求成全自己。但如果你愛了，又有所渴求，就讓這些成為你的所求吧： 融化為一道奔流的溪水，在黑夜吟唱自己的清曲。體會太多溫柔帶來的痛苦。被自己對愛的體會所傷害。心甘情愿的滴血。

清晨，帶著一顆生翼的心醒來，感謝又一個充滿愛的日子； 午休，沉思愛的心醉神怡； 黃昏，帶著感激歸家；

睡前，為你心中的摯愛祈禱。

Is life shy

I was painfully shy as a child.In high school I would avoid anticipating in class discussions.I was too afraid to talk to anyone but my closest friends.I would think about being less shy, wanting the courage not only to ask a girl out, but to speak up in class and say what I was thinking.Yes, it never happened, fears embodied themselves in such self-conscious question as, “What will other people think?”, “What if she says no?” I felt a dark presence in my mind holding me back.This shyness continued into college.One day the question occurred to me: Is life shy?

The thought startled me!Think of the leaves bursting in the spring time, the bird singing at dawn, the sheer number of different forms of life, all expressing the wildness and scope of divine life.There is nothing shy about it.This life is everywhere and attention-grabbing.So, if my creator is not shy about all the life that needs expressing, I do not need to be either.I realized that if I wanted to overcome fear and shyness, I would have to put the law of life into practice.Shyness, fear, and loneliness were hiding me from living my life as life.I had to refuse to let shyness and fear control me.Instead, I decided to live hw life saw me.One example: I wrote a note to a girl, asking her out on a date.Even as I was writing it, the fears of rejection and unworthiness put their pressure to me.This time however, instead of shrinking back and hiding from fear, I put the note in the campus mail in spite of myself.I thought whether she says yes or no, it is still right for me not to be shy.I can live with the confidence sent from the source of my life.The girl saw me in class the next day and told me that she would love to go out with me.I should not have been so surprised!

Bit by bit, I was proving that a limited view of myself no longer had control over me.After college, I worked as a newspaper reporter, earned an advanced degree in theater, became a published writer(a life-long dream), met a special woman whom I married, and even got a job teaching at a major university.作為采石工的第一天

截至去年二月止，距離我初次打算嘗試一種痛苦且受制約的生活經歷已經20年了。那天早晨，我懷著無比沉重的心情于日出前上路。那時我還只是個瘦骨嶙峋男孩，愛戀美好而飄渺的浪漫，癡迷于白日做夢，醉心于不幸的變故。但我卻將要去被伯恩斯在他的“兩只狗”中列為所有就業情況中最令人討厭的采石場之一去工作。除了以前被幾則悲觀的論調引起的不安外，我當時生活狀況的一部分還是相當快樂的。我曾經游蕩于山石和叢林之間，也一度品讀獵奇書籍，并且對世襲故事珍愛有加。但現在我將用所有的白日夢和所有的樂趣來迎取一種不得不長時間出賣勞力以求基本生存的苦難生活。

我所工作的采石場位于南海岸一個美麗的內陸灣，或者說是一個河口。一旁是一條清澈見底的小溪，另一旁則是綿延的冷杉叢。在老紅山巖片區已經被開發了，高聳在由沖積泥土而形成的巨大河床之上，有些地方幾乎高出30英尺，在那時的這個季節被租出了，在近來天氣嚴寒的時節，它總呈現出一覽無余的面貌，搖搖欲墜，岌岌可危。一堆從上面落下來的碎塊擋住了通往采石場的路。我此行的目的就是把它們清理開。

盡管與鐵鍬之間的摩擦導致了手上的水泡，但那卻無關痛癢。我仍欣欣然地努力工作，因為我期待目睹這些外表看似堅不可摧的地下層組織是如何被挖開，爾后被挪走的。我的工友利用了鋤、楔形物以及杠桿等工具，盡管我習慣性的認為這些工具除了本身笨重外，操作還是很方便的，但我卻發現，就其使用方式而言，我仍需多加學習。然而它們的效用并不明顯，由于必須深挖至下一層，工人們便利用了火藥，我想這道對我來說還是陌生的程序應該極其有趣吧！他享有因受意外傷害而被照顧的特權，諸如劃船、攀巖這類程度危險的活動。因此也就有了無關自身新奇與否的興趣。經過多次致命爆破，碎石片漫天飛舞，其中一個巨大的洪積層塊團崩塌時，兩只既死的鳥兒也隨之落了下來，順著由最近的一次暴風雨形成的水流入一條更深的裂溝，死于隱蔽處。

我又產生了觀看它們好奇心:其中一個是一只雄性的金翅雀，朱紅色的頭冠，翅膀上鑲嵌著名副其實的金色，看起來油光滑亮且干凈，就像是為了博物館藏而特意維持的一般；另外一個是屬于啄木鳥科的相當稀有的鳥類，斑駁的色彩中閃現出淡藍色和灰黃色。我之所以專注于欣賞這兩只可憐的鳥兒，與其說是思考十年后它們夏季綠色棲息地中的溫暖和快樂與它們遷徙時的的寒冷和黑暗的對照，不如說是陶醉于其時的的脈脈含情。正在這時，響起了老板吩咐工人收工的聲音。

我抬頭看到太陽沉浸于綿延的杉木叢后，留下來的長長的黑影徑直伸向海岸。

Chen Bin’s Noble Deeds Born in Haikang county, a city of Guangdong province, Chen Bin enjoys a courtesy name of Meichuan.When he worked hard in his early years, he once said: “There are few who are able to gain a good reputation of nobility when they are officials if they don not have strict self-discipline before.”

After passing a series of examinations, he became a presented scholar in 1694,and was conferred a magistrate of Gutian county.Mountainous as Gutian is, its small fields laid around without any order, and its tax and corvee were not so even.As a consequence, many people migrated and evaded away, some sly ones even turned thieves.Given its serious situation, Chen Bin boldly made a balanced tax and corvee plan, thus people there had a chance to recuperate and rebuild themselves.He soon was moved to Taiwan, where just had a recovery then, and many rules and regulations were not that complete.He not only led its people with his honesty but also made improving custom and prospering culture as his important business.He himself even wore flax clothes and ate vegetable food with no other flavor.At he end of the year, he donated all of his salary to the public and he left himself nothing.His noble deeds startled everyone around, and that was exactly what made him achieve so great a feat.When he took office as a TXDQS in Sichuan in 1703, he selected the talented with heart and soul all by himself, and he was known as the most honest government official.In 1714, he broke a rule of being promoted grand coordinator of Pianyuan, and he went there alone.Being unknown to his occupation, many bureaucrat officials showed no cordial welcome to him at all.He often said: “though an official takes only a small amount of money, he actually had stolen a big sum.” So he refused to accept any gift or offering from people.His son had planned to visit their relatives several times, only finding no extra money at hand to rent a boat or cart.Chen Bin?s extraordinary character separated him from his fellow.He lived a plain, or rather a hard life, even his roof was of rough materials.Though he ate a little meat everyday, fruits and vegetables were his constant diet.His daily life was mostly lived through at the congress hall.He was so crazy about his work that he would get up at dawn and not sleep until it was too late at night.When he came up to meet the emperor, the predecessor showed solicitous concern about his health and welfare.But Chen Bin said:“I have a relatively wealthy life before I get the position, and I always can feed myself well without taking even a penny.” After he went far away, the emperor said with a mixed feeling:“what a poor penitential monk!”

Soon after he was set to Fujian.The emperor personally said to the chancellors:“Chen Bin is born and growing up by the sea, has no a well traditionary family, nor any relatives or

old friends, but people around all acclaimed that he is honest and upright.If he does not have fine deeds, how could it be like this? He is surely a prototype of auspicious for the country.” When he coped with affairs, he put emphasize on the important ones, and did not approve trivial ones.After he reached Jianyang, he built a Cox Pavilion Academy, then he also constructed Zhizi Temple of Dragon Stream.After a while, he took a viceroy of MinZhe as another work.When he wasa commanded to guard the coast, he refused to take in offerings from people and prepared necessary food by himself.The sea tides of Dongyang bank in Leizhou, Guangdong province, were so violent that they violated peasants? fields there.Therefore, Chen Bin took liberties with public property and his own salary of the official to help construct the burrock.Henceforth, its induration benefited fellow villagers there.When he suffered a serious illness, he only left his will indicating that his remaining 13,000 taels of silver would be presented to military pay division.The emperor said:“It is rare to such a noble official as Chen Bin.” And he was posthumously awarded director of board of vites, its posthumous title Qingduan.Exhortation to High Officials It is worthwhile paying certain attention to the historical experiences when it comes to tidy local administration.A paragraph in …………compiled and published by imperial order records:“If a corrupted chancellor can not make a prototype for his fellows, they might be dishonest;if the fellows can not manage people well, the society custom is bound to go bad, and at this rate, they make compulsory collection wildly, which will exert great harm on common people.So dsastr will surely be in store for the country.Under this circumstance, one can not wish a peaceful and stable life at all.”

Chancellor plays a key role in advocating upright and punishing dishonest.First of all, they occupy an important position and can affect other inferior officers directly.And their ways of dealing with affairs are bound to have significant effect on political life and social climate.Secondly, once a chancellor is involved in corruption, he will not be able to accord the dignity he actually deserves, and has no bold courage to manage politics.Just as the saying goes: It makes little invalid efficiency that one blame others for their dishonesty and corruption in he himself can not perform good deeds expected from him.Adimittedly it is true that some chancellors in all ages are so lured by greedy lust that they are just like moths flying into the flames, without considering accusals from the public.They just disregard moral principles in pursuit of profit, which makes them fatuous.And at the same time, they all harbor a fluke mind.Some books involving cautionary advice on high officials have already analyzed such a mentation, and indicated that people surely have a preference for themselves when compared with bribery, but they usually make an inverse choice between the two, and this is why? Actually, most of them reckon that they have a relatively underground action, and no one will know it.However, what makes them surprised is that their bribery will gradually spread from the place where they practiced

bribery to large street and small lanes day by day.Once their bribery is brought to light, not only all of their relatives and faithful friends but also evil associates will be hostile to them.They might feel tired in mind and exhausted in strength upon losing all standings and reputation.What a tragic experience!All talked about here is intended to deliver such a plain and profound alert to those ignoramus who hold an important post:“ You just can not escape being punished as there does exist justice and verdict of the masses.”