第一篇：2016布琳布朗ted演講稿

2016布琳布朗ted演講稿

布琳布朗ted演講稿為大家整理社會研究教授布琳布朗在2016年在ted上的精彩演講，脆弱的力量，我恨脆弱!演講中她說出了自己的觀點，脆弱的力量。關系是我們活著的原因，下面是小編整理的布琳布朗ted演講稿 布琳布朗ted演講稿

幾年前，一個活動策劃人打電話給我，因為我當時要做一個演講。她在電話里說：“我真很苦惱該如何在宣傳單上介紹你?！蔽倚南朐趺磿鄲滥?她繼續道：“你看，我聽過你的演講，我覺得我可以稱你為研究者，可我擔心的是，如果我這么稱呼你，沒人會來聽，因為大家普遍認為研究員很無趣而且脫離現實。”然后她說：“但是我喜歡你的演講，就跟講故事一樣很吸引人。我想來想去，還是覺得稱你為講故事的人比較妥當?！倍莻€做學術的感?ahref='list-6-1.html'class='keylink'講話駁奈彝芽詼齙潰?ldquo;你要叫我什么?“她說：”我要稱你為講故事的人?！拔倚南耄骸睘槭裁床桓纱嘟心Хㄐ【`?“(笑聲)我說：”讓我考慮一下?！拔以囍钠鹩職?。我對自己說，我是一個講故事的人。我是一個從事定性研究的科研人員。我收集故事——這就是我的工作?；蛟S故事就是有靈魂的數據。或許我就是一個講故事的人。于是我說：”聽著，要不你就稱我為做研究兼講故事的人?！八f：”哈哈，沒這么個說法呀?！八晕沂莻€做研究兼講故事的人，我今天想跟大家談論的——我們要談論的話題是關于拓展認知。我想給你們講幾個故事是關于我的一份研究的，這份研究從本質上拓寬了我個人的認知，也確確實實改變了我生活、愛、工作還有教育孩子的方式。

1、關系是我們活著的原因

我的故事從這里開始。當我還是個年輕的博士研究生的時候，第一年，有位研究教授對我們說：”事實是這樣的，如果有一個東西你無法測量，那么它就不存在?！拔倚南胨皇窃诤搴逦覀冞@些小孩子吧。我說：”真的么?“他說：”當然?！澳愕弥牢矣幸粋€社會工作的學士文憑，一個社會工作的碩士文憑，我在讀的是一個社會工作的博士文憑，所以我整個學術生涯都被人所包圍，他們大抵相信生活是一團亂麻，接受它。而我的觀點則傾向于，生活是一團亂麻，解開它，把它整理好，再歸類放入便當盒里。

我覺得我領悟到了關鍵，有能力去創一番事業，讓社會工作的一個重要理念是置身于工作的不適中。我就是要把這不適翻個底朝天每科都拿到A。這就是我當時的信條。我當時真的是躍躍欲試。我想這就是我要的職業生涯，因為我對亂成一團，難以處理的課題感興趣。我想要把它們弄清楚。我想要理解它們。我想侵入那些我知道是重要的東西把它們摸透，然后用淺顯易懂的方式呈獻給每一個人。

所以我的起點是”關系“。因為當你從事了10年的社會工作，你必然會發現關系是我們活著的原因。它賦予了我們生命的意義。就是這么簡單。無論你跟誰交流工作在社會執法領域的也好，負責精神健康、虐待和疏于看管領域的也好我們所知道的是，關系是種感應的能力--生物神經上，我們是這么被設定的--這就是為什么我們在這兒。所以我就從關系開始。下面這個場景我們再熟悉不過了，你的上司給你作工作評估，她告訴了你37點你做得相當棒的地方，還有一點成長的空間? 然后你滿腦子都想著那一點成長的空間，不是么。這也是我研究的一個方面，因為當你跟人們談論愛情，他們告訴你的是一件讓他們心碎的事。當你跟人們談論歸屬感，他們告訴你的是最讓他們痛心的被排斥的經歷。當你跟人們談論關系，他們跟我講的是如何被斷絕關系的故事。

所以很快的--在大約開始研究這個課題6周以后——我遇到了這個前所未聞的東西，它揭示了關系以一種我不理解也從沒見過的方式。所以我暫停了原先的研究計劃，對自己說，我得弄清楚這到底是什么。它最終被鑒定為恥辱感。恥辱感很容易理解，即害怕被斷絕關系。有沒有一些關于我的事如果別人知道了或看到了，會認為我不值得交往。我要告訴你們的是：這種現象很普遍;我們都會有(這種想法)。沒有體驗過恥辱的人不具有人類的同情或關系。沒人想談論自己的糗事，你談論的越少，你越感到可恥。滋生恥辱感的是一種”我不夠好?！暗男膽B--我們都知道這是個什么滋味：”我不夠什么。我不夠苗條，不夠有錢，不夠漂亮，不夠聰明，職位不夠高?！岸芜@種心態的是一種刻骨銘心的脆弱，關鍵在于要想產生關系，我們必須讓自己被看見，真真切切地被看見。

2、我恨脆弱!你知道我怎么看待脆弱，我恨它。所以我思考著，這次是輪到我用我的標尺擊潰它的時候了。我要闖進去，把它弄清楚，我要花一年的時間，徹底瓦解恥辱，我要搞清楚脆弱是怎么運作的，然后我要智取勝過它。所以我準備好了，非常興奮。跟你預計的一樣，事與愿違。(笑聲)你知道這個(結果)。我能告訴你關于恥辱的很多東西，但那樣我就得占用別人的時間了。但我在這兒可以告訴你，歸根到底這也許是我學到的最重要的東西在從事研究的數十年中。我預計一年變成了六年，成千上萬的故事，成百上千個采訪，焦點集中。有時人們發給我期刊報道，發給我他們的故事--不計其數的數據，就在這六年中。我大概掌握了它。

我大概理解了這就是恥辱，這就是它的運作方式。我寫了本書，我出版了一個理論，但總覺得哪里不對勁——它其實是如果我粗略地把我采訪過的人分成具有自我價值感的人——說到底就是自我價值感。他們勇于去愛并且擁有強烈的歸屬感。另一部分則是為之苦苦掙扎的人，總是懷疑自己是否足夠好的人。

區分那些敢于去愛并擁有強烈歸屬感的人和那些為之而苦苦掙扎的人的變量只有一個。那些敢于去愛并擁有強烈歸屬感的人相信他們值得被愛，值得享有歸屬感。就這么簡單。他們相信自己的價值。而對于我，那個阻礙人與人之間關系的最困難的部分是我們對于自己不值得享有這種關系的恐懼，無論從個人，還是職業上我都覺得我有必要去更深入地了解它。所以接下來我找出所有的采訪記錄找出那些體現自我價值的，那些持有這種觀念的記錄，集中研究它們。

這群人有什么共同之處?我對辦公用品有點癡迷，但這是另一個話題了。我有一個牛皮紙文件夾，還有一個三福極好筆，我心想我該怎么給這項研究命名呢?第一個蹦入我腦子的是全心全意這個詞。這是一群全心全意，靠著一種強烈的自我價值感在生活的人們。所以我在牛皮紙夾的上端這樣寫道，而后我開始查看數據。事實上，我開始是用四天時間集中分析數據，我從頭找出那些采訪，找出其中的故事和事件。主題是什么?有什么規律?我丈夫帶著孩子離開了小鎮，因為我老是陷入像杰克遜.波洛克(美國近代抽象派畫家)似的瘋狂狀態，我一直在寫，完全沉浸在研究的狀態中。下面是我的發現：這些人的共同之處在于勇氣。我想在這里先花一分鐘跟大家區分一下勇氣和膽量。

勇氣，最初的定義，當它剛出現在英文里的時候--是從拉丁文cor，意為心，演變過來的--最初的定義是真心地敘述一個故事，告訴大家你是誰的。所以這些人就具有勇氣承認自己不完美。他們具有同情心，先是對自己的，再是對他人的，事實是，我們如果不能善待自己，我們也無法善待他人。最后一點，他們都能和他人建立關系，這是很難做到的，前提是他們必須坦誠，他們愿意放開自己設定的那個理想的自我以換取真正的自我，這是贏得關系的必要條件。

他們還有另外一個共同之處那就是，他們全然接受脆弱。他們相信讓他們變得脆弱的東西也讓他們變得美麗。他們不認為脆弱是尋求舒適，也不認為脆弱是鉆心的疼痛--正如我之前在關于恥辱的采訪中聽到的。他們只是簡單地認為脆弱是必須的。他們會談到愿意說出”我愛你“，愿意做些沒有的事情，愿意等待醫生的電話，在做完乳房X光檢查之后。他們愿意為情感投資，無論有沒有結果。他們覺得這些都是最根本的。

3、是靈魂覺醒，還是精神崩潰? 我當時認為那是背叛。我無法相信我盡然對科研宣誓效忠——研究的定義是控制(變量)預測去研究現象，為了一個明確的目標，去控制并預測。而我現在的使命即控制并預測卻給出了這樣一個結果：要想與脆弱共存就得停止控制，停止預測于是我崩潰了。它確實是我稱它為崩潰，我的心理醫生稱它為靈魂的覺醒。

靈魂的覺醒當然比精神崩潰要好聽很多，但我跟你說那的確是精神崩潰。然后我不得不暫且把數據放一邊，去求助心理醫生。你知道你是誰當你打電話跟你朋友說：”我覺得我需要跟人談談。你有什么好的建議嗎?“因為我大約有五個朋友這么回答：”喔。我可不想當你的心理醫生?！拔艺f：”這是什么意思?“他們說：”我只是想說，別帶上你的標尺來見我。“我說：”行?！?就這樣我找到了一個心理醫生。我跟她，戴安娜，的第一次見面--我帶去了一份表單上面都是那些全身心投入生活的人的生活方式，然后我坐下了。她說：”你好嗎?“我說：”我很好。還不賴?！八f：”發生了什么事?“這是一個治療心理醫生的心理醫生，我們不得不去看這些心理醫生，因為他們的廢話測量儀很準(知道你什么時候在說真心話)。(笑聲)所以我說：”事情是這樣的。我很糾結。“她說：”你糾結什么?“ 我說：”嗯，我跟脆弱過不去。而且我知道脆弱是恥辱和恐懼的根源是我們為自我價值而掙扎的根源，但它同時又是歡樂，創造性，歸屬感，愛的源泉。所以我覺得我有問題，我需要幫助?！拔已a充道：”但是，這跟家庭無關，跟童年無關?！?笑聲)”我只需要一些策略?！?笑聲)(掌聲)謝謝。戴安娜的反應是這樣的。(笑聲)我接著說：”這很糟糕，對么?“她說：”這不算好，也不算壞?！?笑聲)”它本身就是這樣?！拔艺f：”哦，我的天，要悲劇了?！?悲劇)果然發生了，但又沒有發生。大概有一年的時間。你知道的，有些人當他們發現脆弱和溫柔很重要的時候，他們放下所有戒備，欣然接受。(我要聲明)一，這不是我，二，我朋友里面也沒有這樣的人。(笑聲)對我來說，那是長達一年的斗爭，是場激烈的混戰。脆弱打我一拳，我又還擊它一拳。最后我輸了，但我或許贏回了我的生活。然后我再度投入到了我的研究中，又花了幾年時間真正試圖去理解那些全身心投入生活的人，他們做了怎樣的決定，他們是如何應對脆弱的。為什么我們為之痛苦掙扎?我是獨自在跟脆弱斗爭嗎?不是，這是我學到的：我們麻痹脆弱——當我們等待(醫生)電話的時候。好笑的是，我在Twitter微博和Facebook上發布了一條狀態，”你怎樣定義脆弱?什么會讓你感到脆弱?“在1個半小時內，我收到了150條回復。

因為我想知道大家都是怎么想的。(回復中有)不得不請求丈夫幫忙，因為我病了，而且我們剛結婚;跟丈夫提出要做愛;跟妻子提出要做愛;被拒絕;約某人出來;等待醫生的答復;被裁員;裁掉別人--這就是我們生活的世界。我們活在一個脆弱的世界里。我們應對的方法之一是麻痹脆弱。

我覺得這不是沒有依據：這也不是依據存在的唯一理由，我認為我們當代問題的一大部分都可以歸咎于它--在美國歷史上，我們是欠債最多，肥胖，毒癮、用藥最為嚴重的一代。問題是我從研究中認識到--你無法選擇性地麻痹感情。你不能說，這些是不好的。這是脆弱，這是悲哀，這是恥辱，這是恐懼，這是失望，我不想要這些情感。我要去喝幾瓶啤酒，吃個香蕉堅果松餅。(笑聲)我不想要這些情感。我知道臺下傳來的是會意的笑聲。別忘了，我是靠”入侵“你們的生活過日子的。天哪。

4、你不發麻痹的痛苦，也是快樂的源泉 你無法只麻痹那些痛苦的情感而不麻痹所有的感官，所有的情感。你無法有選擇性地去麻痹。當我們麻痹那些(消極的情感)，我們也麻痹了歡樂，麻痹了感恩，麻痹了幸福。然后我們會變得痛不欲生，我們繼而尋找生命的意義，然后我們感到脆弱，然后我們喝幾瓶啤酒，吃個香蕉堅果松餅。危險的循環就這樣這形成了。

我們需要思考的一件事是我們是為什么，怎么樣麻痹自己的。這不一定是指吸毒。我們麻痹自己的另一個方式是把不確定的事變得確定。宗教已經從一種信仰、一種對不可知的相信變成了確定。我是對的，你是錯的。閉嘴。就是這樣。只要是確定的就是好的。我們越是害怕，我們就越脆弱，然后我們變得愈加害怕。這件就是當今政治的現狀。探討已經不復存在。對話已經蕩然無存。有的僅僅是指責。你知道研究領域是如何描述指責的嗎?一種發泄痛苦與不快的方式。我們追求完美。如果有人想這樣塑造他的生活，那個人就是我，但這行不通。因為我們做的只是把屁股上的贅肉挪到我們的臉上。(笑聲)這真是，我希望一百年以后，當人們回過頭來會不禁感嘆：”哇!“ 我們想要，這是最危險的，我們的孩子變得完美。讓我告訴你我們是如何看待孩子的。從他們出生的那刻起，他們就注定要掙扎。當你把這些完美的寶寶抱在懷里的時候，我們的任務不是說：”看看她，她完美的無可挑剔?！岸谴_保她保持完美--保證她五年級的時候可以進網球隊，七年級的時候穩進耶魯。那不是我們的任務。我們的任務是注視著她，對她說，”你知道嗎?你并不完美，你注定要奮斗，但你值得被愛，值得享有歸屬感?！斑@才是我們的職責。

給我看用這種方式培養出來的一代孩子，我保證我們今天有的問題會得到解決。我們假裝我們的行為不會影響他人。不僅在我們個人生活中我們這么做，在工作中也一樣--無論是緊急救助，石油泄漏，還是產品召回--我們假裝我們做的事對他人不會造成什么大影響。我想對這些公司說：嘿，這不是我們第一次牛仔競技。我們只要你坦誠地，真心地說一句：”對不起，我們會處理這個問題?！?但還有一種方法，我把它留給你們。這是我的心得：卸下我們的面具，讓我們被看見，深入地被看見，即便是脆弱的一面;全心全意地去愛，盡管沒有任何擔保--這是最困難的，我也可以告訴你，作為一名家長，這個非常非常困難--帶著一顆感恩的心，保持快樂哪怕是在最恐懼的時候哪怕我們懷疑：”我能不能愛得這么深?我能不能如此熱情地相信這份感情?我能不能如此矢志不渝?“ 在消極的時候能打住，而不是一味地幻想事情會如何變得更糟，對自己說：”我已經很感恩了，因為能感受到這種脆弱，這意味著我還活著?！白詈?，還有最重要的一點，那就是相信我們已經做得夠好了。因為我相信當我們在一個讓人覺得”我已經足夠了"的環境中打拼的時候我們會停止抱怨，開始傾聽，我們會對周圍的人會更友善，更溫和，對自己也會更友善，更溫和。布琳布朗資料簡介： 中文名:布琳·布朗

外文名:BrenéBrown 國籍:美國

職業:助理研究教授

畢業院校:德克薩斯大學奧斯汀分校 工作單位:休斯頓大學

1995年獲社會工作學士，就讀于德克薩斯大學奧斯汀分校。

1996年獲社會工作碩士，就讀于休斯頓大學社會工作研究生院。2002年獲社會工作博士，就讀于休斯頓大學社會工作研究生院。

1998年1月-2002年5月，休斯頓大學社會工作研究生院，兼職教員。2002年8月-2016年5月，休斯頓大學社會工作研究生院，社會工作助理教授。2016年8月8日-現在，休斯頓大學社會工作研究生院，社會工作研究助理教授。2016年，布林·布朗在TEDxHouston的演講《脆弱的力量》，是TED網站上最受矚目的演講之一，擁有超過600萬次的點擊量。

2016年，在長灘的TED大會上，布林·布朗作了閉幕講座《解讀羞恥》。相關推薦： ted演講稿大全

第二篇：布琳布朗ted演講稿

布琳布朗ted演講稿

布琳布朗ted演講稿為大家整理社會研究教授布琳布朗在2010年在ted上的精彩演講，脆弱的力量，我恨脆弱!演講中她說出了自己的觀點，脆弱的力量。關系是我們活著的原因，下面是小編整理的布琳布朗ted演講稿

布琳布朗ted演講稿

幾年前，一個活動策劃人打電話給我，因為我當時要做一個演講。她在電話里說：“我真很苦惱該如何在宣傳單上介紹你?！?我心想怎么會苦惱呢? 她繼續道：“你看，我聽過你的演講，我覺得我可以稱你為研究者，可我擔心的是，如果我這么稱呼你，沒人會來聽，因為大家普遍認為研究員很無趣而且脫離現

實。”然后她說：“但是我喜歡你的演講，就跟講故事一樣很吸引人。我想來想去，還是覺得稱你為講故事的人比較妥當?！倍莻€做學術的感到不安的我脫口而出道：“你要叫我什么?”她說：“我要稱你為講故事的人。”我心想：“為什么不干脆叫魔法小精靈?”(笑聲)我說：“讓我考慮一下。”我試著鼓起勇氣。

我對自己說，我是一個講故事的人。我是一個從事定性研究的科研人員。我收集故事——這就是我的工作。或許故事就是有靈魂的數據?；蛟S我就是一個講故事的人。于是我說：“聽著，要不你就稱我為做研究兼講故事的人。”她說：“哈哈，沒這么個說法呀?！彼晕沂莻€做研究兼講故事的人，我今天想跟大家談論的——我們要談論的話題是關于拓展認知。我想給你們講幾個故事是關于我的一份研究的，這份研究從本質上拓寬了我個人的認知，也確確實實改變了我生活、愛、工作還有教育孩子的方式。

1、關系是我們活著的原因

我的故事從這里開始。當我還是個年輕的博士研究生的時候，第一年，有位研究教授對我們說：“事實是這樣的，如果有一個東西你無法測量，那么它就不存在。”我心想他只是在哄哄我們這些小孩子吧。我說：“真的么?”他說：“當然。”你得知道我有一個社會工作的學士文憑，一個社會工作的碩士文憑，我在讀的是一個社會工作的博士文憑，所以我整個學術生涯都被人所包圍，他們大抵相信生活是一團亂麻，接受它。而我的觀點則傾向于，生活是一團亂麻，解開它，把它整理好，再歸類放入便當盒里。

我覺得我領悟到了關鍵，有能力去創一番事業，讓社會工作的一個重要理念是置身于工作的不適中。我就是要把這不適翻個底朝天每科都拿到A。這就是我當時的信條。我當時真的是躍躍欲試。我想這就是我要的職業生涯，因為我對亂成一團，難以處理的課題感興趣。我想要把它們弄清楚。我想要理解它們。

我想侵入那些我知道是重要的東西把它們摸透，然后用淺顯易懂的方式呈獻給每一個人。

所以我的起點是“關系”。因為當你從事了10年的社會工作，你必然會發現關系是我們活著的原因。它賦予了我們生命的意義。就是這么簡單。無論你跟誰交流工作在社會執法領域的也好，負責精神健康、虐待和疏于看管領域的也好我們所知道的是，關系是種感應的能力--生物神經上，我們是這么被設定的--這就是為什么我們在這兒。所以我就從關系開始。下面這個場景我們再熟悉不過了，你的上司給你作工作評估，她告訴了你37點你做得相當棒的地方，還有一點成長的空間?

然后你滿腦子都想著那一點成長的空間，不是么。這也是我研究的一個方面，因為當你跟人們談論愛情，他們告訴你的是一件讓他們心碎的事。當你跟人們談論歸屬感，他們告訴你的是最讓他們痛心的被排斥的經歷。當你跟人

們談論關系，他們跟我講的是如何被斷絕關系的故事。

所以很快的--在大約開始研究這個課題6周以后——我遇到了這個前所未聞的東西，它揭示了關系以一種我不理解也從沒見過的方式。所以我暫停了原先的研究計劃，對自己說，我得弄清楚這到底是什么。它最終被鑒定為恥辱感。恥辱感很容易理解，即害怕被斷絕關系。有沒有一些關于我的事如果別人知道了或看到了，會認為我不值得交往。我要告訴你們的是：這種現象很普遍;我們都會有(這種想法)。

沒有體驗過恥辱的人不具有人類的同情或關系。沒人想談論自己的糗事，你談論的越少，你越感到可恥。滋生恥辱感的是一種“我不夠好?！钡男膽B--我們都知道這是個什么滋味：“我不夠什么。我不夠苗條，不夠有錢，不夠漂亮，不夠聰明，職位不夠高?！倍芜@種心態的是一種刻骨銘心的脆弱，關鍵在于要想產生關系，我們必須讓自己被看見，真真切切地被看見。

2、我恨脆弱!

你知道我怎么看待脆弱，我恨它。所以我思考著，這次是輪到我用我的標尺擊潰它的時候了。我要闖進去，把它弄清楚，我要花一年的時間，徹底瓦解恥辱，我要搞清楚脆弱是怎么運作的，然后我要智取勝過它。所以我準備好了，非常興奮。跟你預計的一樣，事與愿違。(笑聲)你知道這個(結果)。我能告訴你關于恥辱的很多東西，但那樣我就得占用別人的時間了。但我在這兒可以告訴你，歸根到底這也許是我學到的最重要的東西在從事研究的數十年中。我預計一年變成了六年，成千上萬的故事，成百上千個采訪，焦點集中。有時人們發給我期刊報道，發給我他們的故事--不計其數的數據，就在這六年中。我大概掌握了它。

我大概理解了這就是恥辱，這就是它的運作方式。我寫了本書，我出版了一個理論，但總覺得哪里不對勁——它

其實是如果我粗略地把我采訪過的人分成具有自我價值感的人——說到底就是自我價值感。他們勇于去愛并且擁有強烈的歸屬感。另一部分則是為之苦苦掙扎的人，總是懷疑自己是否足夠好的人。

區分那些敢于去愛并擁有強烈歸屬感的人和那些為之而苦苦掙扎的人的變量只有一個。那些敢于去愛并擁有強烈歸屬感的人相信他們值得被愛，值得享有歸屬感。就這么簡單。他們相信自己的價值。而對于我，那個阻礙人與人之間關系的最困難的部分是我們對于自己不值得享有這種關系的恐懼，無論從個人，還是職業上我都覺得我有必要去更深入地了解它。所以接下來我找出所有的采訪記錄找出那些體現自我價值的，那些持有這種觀念的記錄，集中研究它們。

這群人有什么共同之處?我對辦公用品有點癡迷，但這是另一個話題了。我有一個牛皮紙文件夾，還有一個三福極好筆，我心想我該怎么給這項研究命

名呢?第一個蹦入我腦子的是全心全意這個詞。這是一群全心全意，靠著一種強烈的自我價值感在生活的人們。所以我在牛皮紙夾的上端這樣寫道，而后我開始查看數據。事實上，我開始是用四天時間集中分析數據，我從頭找出那些采訪，找出其中的故事和事件。主題是什么?有什么規律?我丈夫帶著孩子離開了小鎮，因為我老是陷入像杰克遜.波洛克(美國近代抽象派畫家)似的瘋狂狀態，我一直在寫，完全沉浸在研究的狀態中。下面是我的發現：這些人的共同之處在于勇氣。我想在這里先花一分鐘跟大家區分一下勇氣和膽量。

勇氣，最初的定義，當它剛出現在英文里的時候--是從拉丁文cor，意為心，演變過來的--最初的定義是真心地敘述一個故事，告訴大家你是誰的。所以這些人就具有勇氣承認自己不完美。他們具有同情心，先是對自己的，再是對他人的，事實是，我們如果不能善待自己，我們也無法善待他人。最后一點，他們

都能和他人建立關系，這是很難做到的，前提是他們必須坦誠，他們愿意放開自己設定的那個理想的自我以換取真正的自我，這是贏得關系的必要條件。

他們還有另外一個共同之處那就是，他們全然接受脆弱。他們相信讓他們變得脆弱的東西也讓他們變得美麗。他們不認為脆弱是尋求舒適，也不認為脆弱是鉆心的疼痛--正如我之前在關于恥辱的采訪中聽到的。他們只是簡單地認為脆弱是必須的。他們會談到愿意說出”我愛你”，愿意做些沒有的事情，愿意等待醫生的電話，在做完乳房X光檢查之后。他們愿意為情感投資，無論有沒有結果。他們覺得這些都是最根本的。

3、是靈魂覺醒，還是精神崩潰?

我當時認為那是背叛。我無法相信我盡然對科研宣誓效忠——研究的定義是控制(變量)預測去研究現象，為了一個明確的目標，去控制并預測。而我現在的使命即控制并預測卻給出了這樣一個結果：要想與脆弱共存就得停止控制，停止預測于是我崩潰了。它確實是我稱它為崩潰，我的心理醫生稱它為靈魂的覺醒。

靈魂的覺醒當然比精神崩潰要好聽很多，但我跟你說那的確是精神崩潰。然后我不得不暫且把數據放一邊，去求助心理醫生。你知道你是誰當你打電話跟你朋友說：“我覺得我需要跟人談談。你有什么好的建議嗎?”因為我大約有五個朋友這么回答：“喔。我可不想當你的心理醫生?！蔽艺f：“這是什么意思?”他們說：“我只是想說，別帶上你的標尺來見我。”我說：“行?！?/p>

就這樣我找到了一個心理醫生。我跟她，戴安娜，的第一次見面--我帶去了一份表單上面都是那些全身心投入生活的人的生活方式，然后我坐下了。她說：“你好嗎?”我說：“我很好。還不賴。”她說：“發生了什么事?”這是一個治療心理醫生的心理醫生，我們不得不去看這些心理醫生，因為他們的廢話測量儀很準(知道你什么時候在說真心話)。(笑聲)所

以我說：“事情是這樣的。我很糾結。”她說：”你糾結什么?”

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第三篇：TED演講稿

So I'm here to tell you that we have a problem with boys, and it's a serious problem with boys.Their culture isn't working in schools, and I'm going to share with you ways that we can think about overcoming that problem.First, I want to start by saying, this is a boy, and this is a girl, and this is probably stereotypically what you think of as a boy and a girl.If I essentialize gender for you today, then you can dismiss what I have to say.So I'm not going to do that.I'm not interested in doing that.This is a different kind of boy and a different kind of girl.So the point here is that not all boys exist within these rigid boundaries of what we think of as boys and girls, and not all girls exist within those rigid boundaries of what we think of as girls.But, in fact, most boys tend to be a certain way, and most girls tend to be a certain way.And the point is that, for boys, the way that they exist and the culture that they embrace isn't working well in schools now.1:08How do we know that? The Hundred Girls Project tells us some really nice statistics.For example, for every 100 girls that are suspended from school, there are 250 boys that are suspended from school.For every 100 girls who are expelled from school, there are 335 boys who are expelled from school.For every 100 girls in special education, there are 217 boys.For every 100 girls with a learning disability,there are 276 boys.For every 100 girls with an emotional disturbance diagnosed, we have 324 boys.And by the way, all of these numbers are significantly higher if you happen to be black, if you happen to be poor, if you happen to exist in an overcrowded school.And if you are a boy, you're four times as likely to be diagnosed with ADHD--Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder.2:02Now there is another side to this.And it is important that we recognize that women still need help in school, that salaries are still significantly lower, even when controlled for job types, and that girls have continued to struggle in math and science for years.That's all true.Nothing about that prevents us from paying attention to the literacy needs of our boys between ages three and 13.And so we should.In fact, what we ought to do is take a page from their playbook, because the initiatives and programs that have been set in place for women in science and engineering and mathematics are fantastic.They've done a lot of good for girls in these situations, and we ought to be thinking about how we can make that happen for boys too in their younger years.2:50Even in their older years, what we find is that there's still a problem.When we look at the universities,60 percent of baccalaureate degrees are going to women now, which is

a significant shift.And in fact, university administrators are a little uncomfortable about the idea that we may be getting close to 70 percent female population in universities.This makes university administrators very nervous, because girls don't want to go to schools that don't have boys.And so we're starting to see the establishment of men centers and men studies to think about how do we engage men in their experiences in the university.If you talk to faculty, they may say, “Ugh.Yeah, well, they're playing video games, and they're gambling online all night long, and they're playing World of Warcraft, and that's affecting their academic achievement.” Guess what? Video games are not the cause.Video games are a symptom.They were turned off a long time before they got here.3:52So let's talk about why they got turned off when they were between the ages of three and 13.There are three reasons that I believe that boys are out of sync with the culture of schools today.The first is zero tolerance.A kindergarten teacher I know, her son donated all of his toys to her, and when he did, she had to go through and pull out all the little plastic guns.You can't have plastic knives and swords and axes and all that kind of thing in a kindergarten classroom.What is it that we're afraid that this young man is going to do with this gun? I mean, really.But here he stands as testament to the fact that you can't roughhouse on the playground today.Now I'm not advocating for bullies.I'm not suggesting that we need to be allowing guns and knives into school.But when we say that an Eagle Scout in a high school classroom who has a locked parked car in the parking lot and a penknife in it has to be suspended from school, I think we may have gone a little too far with zero tolerance.4:55Another way that zero tolerance lives itself out is in the writing of boys.In a lot of classrooms todayyou're not allowed to write about anything that's violent.You're not allowed to write about anything that has to do with video games--these topics are banned.Boy comes home from school, and he says, “I hate writing.” “Why do you hate writing, son? What's wrong with writing?” “Now I have to write what she tells me to write.” “Okay, what is she telling you to write?” “Poems.I have to write poems.And little moments in my life.I don't want to write that stuff.” “All right.Well, what do you want to write? What do you want to write about?” “I want to write about video games.I want to write about leveling-up.I want to write about this really interesting world.I want to write about a tornado that comes into our houseand blows all the windows out and ruins all the furniture and kills everybody.” “All right.Okay.” You tell a teacher that, and they'll ask you, in all seriousness, “Should we send this child to the psychologist?”And the answer is no, he's just a boy.He's just a little boy.It's not okay to write these kinds of things in classrooms today.6:00So that's the first reason: zero tolerance policies and the way they're lived out.The next reason that boys' cultures are out of sync with school cultures: there are fewer male teachers.Anybody who's over 15 doesn't know what this means, because in the last 10 years, the number of elementary school classroom teachers has been cut in half.We went from 14 percent to seven percent.That means that 93 percent of the teachers that our young men get in elementary classrooms are women.Now what's the problem with this? Women are great.Yep, absolutely.But male role models for boys that say it's all right to be smart--they've got dads, they've got pastors, they've got Cub Scout leaders, but ultimately, six hours a day, five days a week they're spending in a classroom, and most of those classrooms are not places where men exist.And so they say, I guess this really isn't a place for boys.This is a place for girls.And I'm not very good at this, so I guess I'd better go play video games or get into sports, or something like that, because I obviously don't belong here.Men don't belong here, that's pretty obvious.7:06So that may be a very direct way that we see it happen.But less directly, the lack of male presence in the culture--you've got a teachers' lounge, and they're having a conversation about Joey and Johnny who beat each other up on the playground.“What are we going to do with these boys?” The answer to that question changes depending on who's sitting around that table.Are there men around that table?Are there moms who've raised boys around that table? You'll see, the conversation changes depending upon who's sitting around the table.7:36Third reason that boys are out of sync with school today: kindergarten is the old second grade, folks.We have a serious compression of the curriculum happening out there.When you're three, you better be able to write your name legibly, or else we'll consider it a developmental delay.By the time you're in first grade, you should be able to read paragraphs of text with maybe a picture, maybe not, in a book of maybe 25 to 30 pages.If you don't, we're probably going to be putting you into a Title 1 special reading program.And if you ask Title 1 teachers, they'll tell you they've got about four or five boys for every girl that's in their program, in the elementary grades.8:11The reason that this is a problem is because the message that boys are getting is “you need to do what the teacher asks you to do all the time.” The teacher's salary depends on “No Child Left Behind” and “Race to the Top” and accountability and testing and all of this.So she has to figure out a way to get all these boys through this curriculum--and girls.This compressed curriculum is bad for all active kids.And what happens is, she says, “Please, sit down, be quiet, do what you're told, follow the rules,manage your time, focus, be a girl.” That's what she tells them.Indirectly, that's what she tells them.And so this is a very serious problem.Where is it coming from? It's coming from us.(Laughter)We want our babies to read when they are six months old.Have you seen the ads? We want to live in Lake Wobegon where every child is above average, but what this does to our children is really not healthy.It's not developmentally appropriate, and it's particularly bad for boys.9:24So what do we do? We need to meet them where they are.We need to put ourselves into boy culture.We need to change the mindset of acceptance in boys in elementary schools.More specifically, we can do some very specific things.We can design better games.Most of the educational games that are out there today are really flashcards.They're glorified drill and practice.They don't have the depth, the rich narrative that really engaging video games have, that the boys are really interested in.So we need to design better games.We need to talk to teachers and parents and school board members and politicians.We need to make sure that people see that we need more men in the classroom.We need to look carefully at our zero tolerance policies.Do they make sense? We need to think about how to uncompress this curriculum if we can, trying to bring boys back into a space that is comfortable for them.All of those conversations need to be happening.10:20There are some great examples out there of schools--the New York Times just talked about a school recently.A game designer from the New School put together a wonderful video gaming school.But it only treats a few kids, and so this isn't very scalable.We have to change the culture and the feelingsthat politicians and school board members and parents have about the way we accept and what we accept in our schools today.We need to find more money for game design.Because good games, really good games, cost money, and World of Warcraft has quite a budget.Most of the educational games do not.Where we started: my colleagues--Mike Petner, Shawn Vashaw, myself--we started by trying to look at the teachers' attitudes and find out how do they really feel about gaming, what do they say about it.And we discovered that they talk about the kids in their school, who talk about gaming, in pretty demeaning ways.They say, “Oh, yeah.They're always talking about that stuff.They're talking about their little action figures and their little achievements or merit badges, or whatever it is that they get.And they're always talking about this stuff.” And they say these things as if it's okay.But if it were your culture, think of how that might feel.It's very uncomfortable to be on the receiving end of that kind of language.They're nervous about anything that has anything to do with violence because of the zero tolerance policies.They are sure that parents and administrators will never accept anything.11:45So we really need to think about looking at teacher attitudes and finding ways to change the attitudes so that teachers are much more open and accepting of boy cultures in their classrooms.Because, ultimately, if we don't, then we're going to have boys who leave elementary school saying, “Well I guess that was just a place for girls.It wasn't for me.So I've got to do gaming, or I've got to do sports.” If we change these things, if we pay attention to these things, and we re-engage boys in their learning, they will leave the elementary schools saying, “I'm smart.”

第四篇：TED英語演講稿

TED英語演講稿

TED英語演講稿

I was one of the only kids in college who had a reason to go to the P.O.box at the end of the day, and that was mainly because my mother has never believed in email, in Facebook, in texting or cell phones in general.And so while other kids were BBM-ing their parents, I was literally waiting by the mailbox to get a letter from home to see how the weekend had gone, which was a little frustrating when Grandma was in the hospital, but I was just looking for some sort of scribble, some unkempt cursive from my mother.And so when I moved to New York City after college and got completely sucker-punched in the face by depression, I did the only thing I could think of at the time.I wrote those same kinds of letters that my mother had written me for strangers, and tucked them all throughout the city, dozens and dozens of them.I left them everywhere, in cafes and in libraries, at the U.N., everywhere.I blogged about those letters and the days when they were necessary, and I posed a kind of crazy promise to the Internet: that if you asked me for a hand-written letter, I would write you one, no questions asked.Overnight, my inbox morphed into this harbor of heartbreak--a single mother in Sacramento, a girl being bullied in rural Kansas, all asking me, a 22-year-old girl who barely even knew her own coffee order, to write them a love letter and give them a reason to wait by the mailbox.Well, today I fuel a global organization that is fueled by those trips to the mailbox, fueled by the ways in which we can harness social media like never before to write and mail strangers letters when they need them most, but most of all, fueled by crates of mail like this one, my trusty mail crate, filled with the scriptings of ordinary people, strangers writing letters to other strangers not because they're ever going to meet and laugh over a cup of coffee, but because they have found one another by way of letter-writing.But, you know, the thing that always gets me about these letters is that most of them have been written by people that have never known themselves loved on a piece of paper.They could not tell you about the ink of their own love letters.They're the ones from my generation, the ones of us that have grown up into a world where everything is paperless, and where some of our best conversations have happened upon a screen.We have learned to diary our pain onto Facebook, and we speak swiftly in 140 characters or less.But what if it's not about efficiency this time? I was on the subway yesterday with this mail crate, which is a conversation starter, let me tell you.If you ever need one, just carry one of these.(Laughter)And a man just stared at me, and he was like, “Well, why don't you use the Internet?” And I thought, “Well, sir, I am not a strategist, nor am I specialist.I am merely a storyteller.” And so I could tell you about a woman whose husband has just come home from Afghanistan, and she is having a hard time unearthing this thing called conversation, and so she tucks love letters throughout the house as a way to say, “Come back to me.Find me when you can.” Or a girl who decides that she is going to leave love letters around her campus in Dubuque, Iowa, only to find her efforts ripple-effected the next day when she walks out onto the quad and finds love letters hanging from the trees, tucked in the bushes and the benches.Or the man who decides that he is going to take his life, uses Facebook as a way to say goodbye to friends and family.Well, tonight he sleeps safely with a stack of letters just like this one tucked beneath his pillow, scripted by strangers who were there for him when.These are the kinds of stories that convinced me that letter-writing will never again need to flip back her hair and talk about efficiency, because she is an art form now, all the parts of her, the signing, the scripting, the mailing, the doodles in the margins.The mere fact that somebody would even just sit down, pull out a piece of paper and think about someone the whole way through, with an intention that is so much harder to unearth when the browser is up and the iPhone is pinging and we've got six conversations rolling in at once, that is an art form that does not fall down to the Goliath of “get faster,” no matter how many social networks we might join.We still clutch close these letters to our chest, to the words that speak louder than loud, when we turn pages into palettes to say the things that we have needed to say, the words that we have needed to write, to sisters and brothers and even to strangers, for far too long.Thank you.(Applause)(Applause)

第五篇：TED楊瀾演講稿

The night before I was heading for Scotland,I was invited to host the final of “China's Got Talent” show in Shanghai with 80,000 live audience in the stadium.Guess who was the performing guest? Susan Boyle.And I told her,“I'm going to Scothland the next day.” She sang beautifully, and she even managed to say a few

words in Chineses.“送你蔥”.So it's not like “hello” or “thank you” those ordinary stuff.It's means “green onion for free”.Why did she say that? Beacuse it wae a line from our Chinese parallel Susan Boyle.a 50-some-year old woman a vegetable vendor in Shanghai,who loves singing Westerm opera, but she didn't

understand any English or French or Italian, so she managed to fill in the lyrics with vegetable names in Chinese.And the last sentence of Nessun Dorma that she was singing in the stadium was “green onion for free”.So Susan Boyle was saying that 80,000 live audience sang together.That was hilarious.So I gusee

both Susan Boyle and this Chinese vegtable vendor in Shanghai belonged to otherness.You know, they were the least expected to be successful in the business

called entertainment.Yet their courage and talent brought them through.And a show and a platform gave them the stage to realize their dreams.Well being different is not that difficult.We are all different from different perspectives.But I think being different is good.Because you present

a different point of view.You may have the chance to make a difference.My generation has been very fortunat to witness and participate in the historical transformation of China that has made so many changes in the past 20, 30

years.I remember that in the year of 1990, when I was graduating from college, I was applying for a job in the sales department of the first five-star hotel in Beijing.Great Wall sheraton, it's still there.So after being interrogated by this Japaness manager for a half an hour, he finally said,“So, Miss Yang do you have any questions to ask me?” I summoned my courage and poise and said “Yes, but could you let me know what acutually do you sell?” I didn't have a clue what a sales department was about in a five-star hotel.That was the first day I set my foot into a five-star hotel.Around the same time I was going

through an audition.The first ever open audition by national television in China with another thousand college girls.The producer told us they were looking for some sweet,innocent and beautiful,fresh face.So when it was my turn, I stood up and said,“Why woman personalitise on televison always have to be beautiful sweet,innocent, beautiful and you know supportive?” Why can't they have their own ideas and their own voice? I thought I you know, a kind of offerened them.But actually, they were impressed by my words.And so I was in the second round of competition,and then the third and the forth,after seven round of competition I was the last one to survive it.So I was on a national television prime-time show.And belive it or not,that was the first show on Chinese televison that

allowed its host to speak out of their own minds without reading an approved script.And my weekly audience at that time was between 200 to 300 million people.Well,after a few years,I was decided to go to U.S.and Clumbia university to pursure my postgraduate studies and then strated my own media company,which was unthought of, you know, during the years that I started my career.So we do a lot of things.I interviewed more than a thousands people in the past.And some times,I have young people approaching me and say “you know, Lan.you changed my life” You know, I feel pround of that.But then we also so fortunate to witness the transformation of the whole country.I was in Beijing's bidding for Olympic Games I was representing Shanghai Expo.I saw China embracing the world and vice versa.But then sometimes I'm thinking.you know,what are today's young generation up to;How are they different and what are the differences they are going to make to shape the future of China or at large the world?

So, today I went to talk about young people through the platform of social media.First of all, who are they,How do they look like? Well this is girl called Guo meimei,20 years old,beautiful.She showed off her expensive bags clothes and car on her microblog which is the Chinese vision of Twitter.And she claimed

to be the general manager of Red Cross at the Charmber of Commerce.She didn't realize that she was stepped on a sensitive nerve and aroused national

quesioning almost a turmoil, against the credibility of Red Cross.The controversy was so heated that the Red Cross had to open a press conference to clarify

it and the investigation is going on.So far,as to today, we know that she herself made up that title.Probably she feels pround to be associated with charity.ALL those expensive items were given to her as gifts by her boyfriend who used to be a board member in a subdivision of Red Cross at Chamber of Commerce.It very complicated to explain.But anyway, the publice still don't buy it,it's still boiling.Its shows us a general mistrust of goverment or goverment background institutions, which lacked transparency in the past.And also it showed us the power and the impact of social media as microblog.microblog boomed in the year of 2010,with visitors doubled and time spent on it tripled.sina.com a major news portal alone has more than 140 million microbloggers on Tencent,200 million.The most porpular blogger, it's not me.it's a movie star.And she has more than 9.5 million followers or fans.About 80 percent of those microblogger are young people under 30 years old.And because,as you know, the traditional media is still heavily controlled by the goverment.So,social media offers an opening to let the stem a little bit out.But because you don't have any other openings,so the heat comes out of this opening is sometimes very strong, active and even violent.So through microblogging.We are able to understand Chinese youth even better.So how are they different.First of all,most of them were

born in the 80s or 90s under the One-Child policy.And because of the selected abortion by families who favorede boys to girls.Now we are ended up with 30 million young men than women.That could pose a potential danger to the society.But who knows, we are in the globalized world.So they can look for girlfriends from other countries.Most of them has fairly good education.The illteracy rate in Chian among this gerneration is under 1 percent.In cities, 80 percent of kids go to college.But they are facing an aging China, with a population above 65 years old coming up with 70-some-percent this year.and about to be 15 percent by the year of 2030.And you know we have the tradition that the younger generations support the elder financially and taking care of them when they are sick.So it means young couples will have to support 4 parents who have a life expetancy as to 73 years old.So making a living is not that easy for young people.College graduates are not in short supply.In urban areas,college graduates find the starting salary is about 400U.S dollars a month.While the average rent is above$500.So, what do they do? They have to share space,squeezed in very limited space to save money.And they called themselves“tribe of ants”.And for those who are ready to get married and buy their apartment.They figured out they have to work for 30 to 40 years to afford their first apartment.That ratio in America would only cost a couple 5 years to earn but in China it's 30-40 years with the highrocketing real estate price.Among the 200 million migrant workers,60 percent of them are young people.They find themselves a sort of sanwiches between the urban areas and the rural

areas.Most of them don't want to goback to the countryside,but they don't have the sense of belonging.They work for longer hours,with less income,less social welfare.And they are more vulnerable to job losses.Subject to inflation,tightening loans from banks,appreciation of RMB or decline demand frome Europe and America for the products they produce.Last year,though an appalling incident in a southern OEM manufactureing compound in China.13 young workers in their late teens and early 20s sommitted suside,just one by one like causing a contagious disease.But they died because of all different personal reasons.But this whole incident aroused a huge outcry from society about the isolation both physical and mental of these migrant workers.For those who do return to the countryside,they find themselves very welcome locally,because with the knowledge,skills,networks they have learned in the cities with the assistance of Internet.They are able to create more jobs,upgrade local agriculture and creates new business in the less developed market.So for the past few years the coastal areas they found themselves in a shortage of labor.These diagrams show a more general social background.The first one is the Engels coefficient which explain the cost of daily necessities has dropped the

percentage all throug the past decade in terms of family income,about 37-some percent.But then in the last two years,it gose up again 39 percent indicating a rising living cost.The Gini coefficient has already passed the dangerous line of 0.4.Now it's 0.5,even worse than that in America showing us the equality of income.And so you see the whole society getting frustrated about losing some of its mobility.And also the bitterness and resentment towards the rich and powerful is quite widespreade.So any accusations of corruption or backdoor dealings between authorities or business would arouse a social outcry or even unrest.So through some of the hottest topics on microblogging we can see what young people care most about social justice and goverment accountability runs

the first what they demand.For the past decade or so,a massive urbanization or development have let us wittness a lot of reports on the forced demoliton of private property.And it has aroused huge anger and frustration among our young generation.Sometimes people get killed and sometimes people set themselves on fire to protest.So when these incidents are reported more and more frequently on the Internet,people cry for the goverment to take actions to stop this.So the good news is that earlier this year the state council passed a new regulation on house requisition and demolition and passed the right to order forced demolition from local goverments to the court.Similarly,many other issues concering public safety is a hot topic on the Internet.We heard about polluted air,polluted water,poisoned food.And guess what, we have faked beef.They have sorts of ingredients that you brush on a piece of chicken or fish and it turns it to looks like beef.And then lately,people are

very concerned about cooking oil,because thousands of people have been found recooking oil from restaurant slop.So all these things have aroused a huge outcru from the Internet.And fortunately,we have see the goverment responding more timely and also more frequently to the public concerns.While young people seem to be very sure about their participating in public policy making but sometimes they are little bit lost in terms of what they want for their personal life.China is soon to pass the U.S.as the number one market for luxury brands thats not including the Chinese expenditures in Europe and elsewhere.But you know what,half of those consumers are earning a salary below $2,000 U.S.dollars.They are not rich at all.They are taking those bags and clothes as a sense of identity and social status.And this is a girl explicitly saying on a TV dating show that she would rather cry in BMW than smie on B bicycle.But of course,we do have young people who would prefer to smile whether in a BMW or on a bicycle.So in the next phenomenon,you see a very popular phenomenon called naked wedding or naked marriage.It dose not mean they will wear nothing in the wedding.But it shows that these young couples are ready to

get married without a house,without a car,and without a diamond ring and without a wedding banquate to show their commitment to ture love.And also people are doing good through social media.And the first picture showed us that a truck cagging 500 homeless and kidnapped dogs for food processing was soptted and stopped on highway with whole country watching throug microblogging.People were donating money,dog food,and offer volunter work to stop the truck.And after 5 hours of negotiation.500 dogs were rescued.And here also people are helping to find a missing children.A father posted his son's picture onto the Internet.After thousands of recent delay,the child was found and we wittness the reunion of the family through microblogging.So happiness is the most popular word we have hear through the past two years.Happiness is not only related to personal experience and personal values.But it's also about the

environment.People are thinking about the following questions are we going to sacrifice our environment further to produce higher GDP? How are we going to perform our social and political reforms to keep pace with economic growth to keep sustainability and stability?And also how capable of the system of selr-correctness to keep more people content with all sorts of fiction going on at the same time?

I guess those are the questions people are going to answer.And our younger generation are going to transform this country while at the same time being transformed themselves.Thank you very much!(Applause)