第一篇:教孩子做一個輸得起的人
教孩子做一個輸得起的人
上個周末,帶孩子去參加了市小學生乒乓球比賽,借此機會觀看了一場場賞心悅目、令人嘆為觀止的球賽。作為大人,看到許多小選手們年紀雖小,但個個身懷絕技,在場面隆重、激烈競爭的比賽中其表現出的過硬的心理素質、頑強拼搏的精神,驚喜羨慕之余,我還感到自愧不如。此外,在欣賞了孩子們帶來的精彩表現之外,我還看到了一些令人遺憾和擔憂的現象。
觀看比賽的間隙,一個同行朋友有些氣憤地告訴我:前不久,S學校的學生剛和他們學校進行完比賽,雙方實力接近,比賽時雙方拼得很兇,最后他們得以艱難勝出。比賽結束后,S學校的學生不甘心落敗,竟在場地旁邊的黑板上寫下了咒罵對手的話,以此泄恨。真是一群沒有教養的學生,也不知道他們老師是怎么教的。說完他不住地搖頭嘆息。聽他的話后,我也為那些孩子“沒教養沒風度”的表現深感失望。一般來說,比賽勝負本由選手實力及臨場發揮決定,無論誰輸誰贏都是很正常的事。再說,這些由各學校、鎮區經過比賽選拔出來的選手,有許多人還被家長送到專業培訓機構參加訓練,既經歷過比賽,又有專業培訓的經歷,至少應當懂得勝敗乃兵家常事,應當能夠正確地看待比賽的輸贏??蔀槭裁磪s表現出這樣的教養來?
我又想到,學生以這種不恰當的方式來發泄,他的老師或家長們未必知道,甚至未必想得到。當然還有這樣的可能,知道了卻認為這無關緊要,因為他們更關心的只是比賽的勝負。還有一種令我擔憂的可能,那便是:大人默許了孩子的行為,認為孩子輸了比賽,發泄一下情緒也很正常。孩子嘛,不就是寫幾個罵人的字嗎,何需大驚小怪呢。在我看來,有些大人的確是這樣想的。而很多教育方面的問題,恰恰就出在大人身上。有句話說得好,有什么樣的大人,便有什么樣的孩子。換言之,孩子身上表現出來的言行教養,往往從某種程度上反映了他的老師、家長的言行教養。所以指責孩子的時候,大人往往忽略了一個問題:在日常生活中,孩子從大人們身上學到了什么?
常看體育賽事的朋友一定都會同意我的看法:哪里有比賽,哪里就有爭執。這也是很正常的事。因為人人都要公平,<蓮山課 件 >都爭取占勝對手。然而裁判也是人,也和我們一樣都是兩只眼睛兩手兩腳的人,所以有時出現差錯也是在所難免的事。我想以此來談談這次的小學生乒乓球賽。在比賽中,我看到,有幾次,為了某個球的判罰問題,選手雙方的老師、教練或親友團,都出現了極不理智的行為。比如:對裁判員大呼小叫,指指點點,盛氣凌人,大有爭不過便絕不罷休的氣勢。有時甚至嚴重干擾了比賽的正常進行,迫使比賽出現中斷。我注意到,這些大人們的爭執也極大地影響了孩子比賽的情緒。作為帶孩子參賽的老師,我當然能理解和體會大人們一心求得公正和勝利的心情。我也認為,裁判出現差錯或不公的時候,有必要用合理的方式適時提出自己的意見和申訴。然而,我反對這種過激的方式來處理和看待這件事。一方面,裁判判罰比賽時出現一些差錯是難以避免的,即使是世界頂級體育大賽也是如此。比賽中誰也不愿意吃虧,但是也要學會理解和尊重裁判的工作。作為大人,教孩子明白這一點也有助于他學會正確地看待比賽。另一方面,我想很多大人也許根本沒有考慮過,孩子將從他們的行為中學到什么?比如:孩子不懂得尊重比賽的規則和裁判,會因此把失敗更多地歸咎于自己以外的原因,如裁判的判罰偏頗等。而由于大人的爭吵將造成的孩子心態上的失衡,比如過于看重比賽的結果,比賽時將難以調整好自己的情緒將影響自身水平的發揮,或者在比賽中不懂得要尊重對手,有時甚至還會做出極端的行為來。我還想到,孩子年齡尚小,過于注重比賽的結果,將使孩子失去打球本身帶來的樂趣,忽視平時的訓練及比賽的過程,這對孩子今后的個性成長和專業發展都是極為不利的。
在我個人看來,無論大人小孩,出現以上種種令人遺憾的現象,其主要原因在于三個字:輸不起。寫到這里,我不由聯想起了前不久引起各大媒體廣泛關注的合肥少女毀容事件。這起慘劇中,一高中少年愛慕并瘋狂追求另一女高中少女,追至女方家中遭到拒絕后,竟以殘忍的手段將之毀容。在一般人看來,男女交往本應是你情我愿的事,可這個高中少年卻因追求不得而做出如此喪心病狂的極端行為。從上面談及的角度來看,這難道不也是一種“輸不起”的表現嗎?
因此,我認為,關于這一點,無論是體育比賽還是其它,大人首先應該以身作則,然后教孩子明白:比賽的勝負以及任何事情的結果固然重要,但更重要的是,要學會用正確的心態來看待失敗或挫折,做一個輸得起的人。
第二篇:如何做輸得起的人
如何做輸得起的人
Hello ladies and gentlemen.Welcome here today.I hope you enjoy my speech.Learn from failure.Learn from every mistake.Learn how to be a good loser.That's what I'll be talking about today.That's our lesson to learn.Let me tell you why.First,realize losing is a part of life.It is unavoidable.It is something we all must face.Don't be embarrassed to lose.Don't be ashamed of losing.Losing doesn't mean you're a loser.Everybody loses sometimes.Every great person knows this truth.Never let losing become permanent.Second,just accept it.Losing is beneficial.Losing can be helpful to you.View losing as positive.View it as a learningexperience.Make “lemonade out of lemons.”
Losing can be a valuable lesson.Losing is an excellent chance to learn.You can learn how to try again and improve.Third,practice makes perfect.Practice losing to get tough.Enter contests you know you can't win.Create challenges for yourself.Create a fearless mindset.Never be afraid of failure.Lose as much as you can.Losing only makes you better.That is a great secret of success.Fourth,force yourself to be gracious.Just grin and bear it.Just take it with a smile.Offer congrats to the winner.Offer a handshake or some praise.Say,“you did a better job today.”
Share in his or her happiness.Share sincerely and your disappointment will fade.That's the magic of future winners.In conclusion,remember this.Always be a good loser.Always be gracious in defeat.It might be painful at first.It gets easier as you go along.The benefits of being a good loser are many.You'll be respected and admired.You'll feel so fortunate to learn so much.It is in losing well that we really become winners in life.
第三篇:優秀作文:學會輸得起
優秀作文:學會輸得起
短短12年過去了,喜和淚一直伴隨著我,我闖出了勇者的不悔,贏過輸過。每一次成功我都為自己的拼搏而慶幸,每一次失敗,也將在我的心頭狠狠的劃上一刀。雖然我知道,一次失敗不代表人生的全部,但情感的波線讓我無法正視失敗。失敗時,沒有鮮花,沒有掌聲,沒有榮耀,只有孤獨,只有落淚,只有彷徨。好像我被這個世界拋棄在荒草連天的大草原上,傷心、疲憊。小時候,寫作文總是寫自己不畏摔跤,不畏失敗,但當被它們傷到時,卻總是默默地躲到一邊。獨自心傷。兒時的豪言壯志,長大后才發現是那么的不符合實際?!坝兄菊撸赂偝?。破釜沉舟,百三秦關終歸楚;苦心人,天不負。臥薪嘗膽,三千越甲可吞吳。”突然想起同學的贈言,好吧!學勾踐來個臥薪嘗膽,積聚力量,來它個一鳴驚人,對得起自己的那句“在鳥終為鳳,為魚須化餛”。人生路上,我學會了輸得起!學會輸得起 的延伸閱讀——作文寫作技巧慧眼傳神的標題要在考場中取悅閱卷老師,先用傳神的標題去構建作文的佳境,嘗言:標題是眼睛。好作文就要有一雙迷人的慧眼?,F在我們訓練了大量的話題作文,大量同學卻把標題擬得老氣橫秋,或者干脆用話題作為文章的標題,讓人一看就不愿給高分。所以作為考生的你要充分意識到閱卷老師的疲憊,用盡量新、雅、美的標題去引起老師的注意,標題擬好
了,實際上也是在為考場作文創設景致,而獨特的標題更是作文獨僻佳境的最好體現,會讓人為之一震。一言九鼎的識見對于中學生的作文,閱卷老師尤其看重學生的思想認識與觀點見解。在閱卷的過程中,老師始終在留意或尋找考生作文中最能代表其識見的內容。因為任何一篇文章總是為表達一定的思想主題服務的,識見的水平如何,直接關涉到作文得分的高低,因此作為考生應該不斷磨礪語言,砥礪思想,盡可能在作文中表達一言九鼎的識見。而實踐證明,精要而有深度的認識與見解,會使本來很平常的作文內容為之境界全新,無眼之龍也會因為你的點睛之筆而暢游九天之外。千描百繪的特寫考場記敘文,閱卷老師最看重有沒有場面描寫,看場面描寫時,老師又最看重有沒有特寫鏡頭。因為寫好特寫鏡頭在閱卷老師看來,就是寫好記敘文的最佳境界。什么是特寫鏡頭,即考生借鑒電影藝術的表現手法,對人物、景物的局部特征加以濃墨重彩式的描寫或精細刻畫,從而凸現一個感人的形象,展示一個精彩的細節,使文章具有強烈的感染力的藝術手法。所以為了與一般平鋪直敘式的記敘文境界有別,考生應該獨辟特寫的佳境,讓考場記敘文因為特寫而牽制住老師的眼球。
第四篇:英語演講——如何成為一個輸得起的人
如何成為一個輸得起的人
hello ladies and gentlemen.welcome here today.i hope you enjoy my speech.learn from failure.learn from every mistake.learn how to be a good loser.that's what i'll be talking about today.that's our lesson to learn.let me tell you why.first,realize losing is a part of life.it is unavoidable(不可避免的).it is something we all must face(面對).don't be embarrassed(尷尬).don't be ashamed of losing(不要以失敗為恥辱).losing doesn't mean you're a loser.everybody loses sometimes.every great person knows this truth.never let losing become permanent(永久的).second,just accept it.losing is beneficial(有益的).losing can be helpful to you.view losing as positive.view it as a learning experience.losing can be a valuable lesson.losing is an excellent chance to learn.you can learn how to try again and improve.third,practice makes perfect.enter contests you know you can't win.create challenges for yourself.never be afraid of failure.lose as much as you can.losing only makes you better.that is a great secret of success.fourth,force yourself to be gracious.just take it with a smile.offer congrats to the winner.offer a handshake or some praise.say,“you did a better job today.”
share in his or her happiness.share sincerely(真誠的)and your disappointment will fade(消失).that's the magic of future winners.in conclusion(總之),remember this.always be a good loser.it might be painful at first.it gets easier as you go along.the benefits of being a good loser are many.you'll be respected(尊敬)and admired(欽佩).you'll feel so fortunate(幸運)to learn so much.it is in losing well that we really become winners in life.
第五篇:初中生英語演講:如何成為輸得起的人(推薦)
hello ladies and gentlemen.welcome here today.i hope you enjoy my speech.learn from failure.learn from every mistake.learn how to be a good loser.that's what i'll be talking about today.that's our lesson to learn.let me tell you why.first,realize losing is a part of life.it is unavoidable.it is something we all must face.don't be embarrassed to lose.don't be ashamed of losing.losing doesn't mean you're a loser.everybody loses sometimes.every great person knows this truth.never let losing become permanent.second,just accept it.losing is beneficial.losing can be helpful to you.view losing as positive.view it as a learningexperience.make “lemonade out of lemons.”
losing can be a valuable lesson.losing is an excellent chance to learn.you can learn how to try again and improve.third,practice makes perfect.practice losing to get tough.enter contests you know you can't win.create challenges for yourself.create a fearless mindset.never be afraid of failure.lose as much as you can.losing only makes you better.that is a great secret of success.fourth,force yourself to be gracious.just grin and bear it.just take it with a smile.offer congrats to the winner.offer a handshakeorsome praise.say,“you did a better job today.”
share in hisorher happiness.share sincerely and your disappointment will fade.that's the magic of future winners.in conclusion,remember this.always be a good loser.always be gracious in defeat.it might be painful at first.it gets easier as you go along.the benefits of being a good loser are many.you'll be respected and admired.you'll feel so fortunate to learn so much.it is in losing well that we really become winners in life.